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The Future of Dating For Men

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I wanted to write to the men out there, however if the women read this it most certainly is appreciated.  The very word appreciation is one I think men should consider when they wake up to the idea that a special woman in their life correlates to that word.

Did you guys know that it has never been a better time to meet interesting women than ever before? I’m here to tell you that if you are serious now is the time.  Many of you ran and hid inside your bunkers for the last six years.  Guess what, the men that didn’t hide were here meeting women by the bunches.  One of my male members met fifty three women in the last sixteen months and is now exclusively dating one of them.  A new male member of mine who joined two weeks ago has already met two women. One woman he went on two dates and the next one he is going on a second date with.  Why are these men successful?  Because they are not afraid to be social with women. They are reasonable in their expectations and they will succeed at my matchmaking service.

Dating interest is up for women these days which makes the future of dating for men a potential proposition that will be successful.   Women are seeking a safer way to meet men and are leaving online dating sites for the safety provided by a matchmaking service. The smart guys know this and sign up at Tri-State Dating Service.

One of the awkward issues that men bring to my attention is how can they get women to like them.  The very first thing is to not be intimidated by them.  I never found women intimidating so I get amazed by the amount of men that do.  In dating it’s all about how we get to like each other.  Many men roll their eyes at the thought of dating because many women became very picky in the years of 2001-2006 this scared many men out of the dating pool.  I think and hope many women are now realizing that you guys are not perfect.  If women find themselves alone for far longer than they could stand then it stands to be reasonable that an adjustment in expectations is in order.  This doesn’t mean women will compromise their personal standards.  It has been a well-known fact to us professionals in the dating industry that men are growing more uncomfortable meeting women.  Guess what guys, women are attracted to confidence. My advice to all you men is showing your confidence; develop confidence if you don’t have it.  Be the decision making man a woman is attracted to.  I think many women are realizing that some of the fringe ideas that were fed to them about men has been nothing but destructive. My agenda is matchmaking pure and simple.  My idea is relaxing fun meetings that result in the natural order of attraction leading to relationship building.  We do it best when we relax and understand each other.

The things men will need in the future of dating for them are determination.  It won’t always be easy, if you get out there and show confidence and be determined to meet people you will find someone.  You men must have empathy and patience.  It isn’t about sex and what she looks like. I know you guys are visual. I’m one of you guys so I know about it.  I also know that personality and real connection is the true key to your successful dating future. The reality for men is that you must simply start liking women as they are in modern times.  Understanding why women are who they are is better than running away from them in fear.

A blunt message to all men is that if you have an agenda of insincerity based on looks leading to sex and you are a pick up artist then your future in dating is bleak.

The key for the sincere man to date women is to set a mood by flirting. I suggest you be fun and entertaining.  You can break through the shield if you know how to be creative and entertaining.  If you are a man who wants to get close to women then try humor, affection, even be silly at times.  Do not be pushy.  Creating mood with women is your future in dating.

In conclusion the biggest barrier to men dating women in the past five years is trust.  Establish trust over time in the future for men in dating.  Establishing trust with women means showing respect, caring about them, kindness, being honest, and listening to what they are saying to you.  This is the future of dating for men. The women are abundant, they are not pushovers.  Women want connection and mutual relationships of equity with a man who has an identity and is comfortable with himself and women want men that feel at ease when they talk to you.


John Holt