Dating can be fun.  The very idea of people getting together can be purely for fun times.  I believe if you can have fun dates for 3-6 months without the intensity you will have a better chance to end up in a relationship.  It does take a certain fun attitude in order to progress in this idea of mine.

It is no secret that relationships have complexities and great joy.  My idea is that the joy should be front loaded in the beginning.   It is acceptable to form friendships that develop slow and blossom.

Human emotions sometime get in the way of starting a relationship.  The emotional state of rejection and failed relationships of the past get in the way.  I say if you are capable of laughter and you know how to be happy then you will likely affect everyone you come in contact with.  The less intense you are the better.

Think of the following when making a decision to build a relationship through dating.  Start by thinking how well you are at taking care of your partner’s needs.  Can you let someone inside of your world?  Can you open up to using humor with confidence?   I can tell you that if you do these things you will be the nurturer of your partner’s spirit?

Do you have positive energy?  Do you smile regularly?  Can you introduce fun playfulness over and over again?  Do you love sharing time with the opposite sex?  Dating can be fun, it isn’t a chore so please don’t make it complicated.   Ask yourself if you are capable of loving someone.

Begin the pathway to trust.  Build respect by being easy to get along with.  Treat each other well and you will receive great treatment in return.  Radiate happiness and joy.  You will then find yourself honored in your partner’s presence.

In dating to build relationships, respect is important.  We must learn to love while avoiding suspicion.  We must be kept from false judgment about others.

Can you express your true self?  Can you tell what other people are feeling?  Is it with great enthusiasm that you earn respect?  The ability to express how you feel is the ability to connect for the future.  A healthy person can effectively express both anger or love, one bad the other good.

In relationships you must acknowledge what true love is.  Giving your partner validation in your life is forming acceptance.

It is my mission to provide a dating service that produces relationships.  Considering the idea that Tri-State Dating Service is about relationships, men and woman must learn that pleasure comes from giving. Take pride in deciding to please someone special in your life.  It will be hard for them to resist being a part of your life.

So my single friends, can I encourage you?  Can I show you the way?  If discouragement, rejection, and despair have been part of the life you live, then I want to change this for you.

In relationship building you regain a youthful enthusiasm for living.  It is everyday that has meaning and purpose.  I want better things for the single people I deal with.  I want you to have the best life together. I want you to embrace dating as being fun.  I want you to rid yourself of intensity.  Let me encourage you to think positively, there is no room for toxic thinking.  You do this by removing the pain from the past, a starting point in turning your life around. You become a hero to your partner.

In the end it is the measure of your attitude, the attitude of feeling at ease with yourself and others, the attitude of acceptance.  It is about feeling at ease with people.  I believe that most single people can make the adjustment of thinking about time as fun, with the idea that fun produces connections.  When you become connected you start a relationship.  When you are uptight you repel people.

John Holt

Matchmaker