Ladies and gentleman this is the single most important set of issues facing us in dating. Expectations in many cases are out of control. I read about this all the time. I deal with unrealistic expectations every week. I sometimes wonder where the origin of all this pie in the sky thinking comes from. The first statement I want woman to think about is, there are no good men out there. Why are we hearing this from woman? I am inclined to think that there must be some good men out there. I meet and sign up good men. I think what many woman are really saying is, there are no perfect men or men that are total packages. Ladies look at you on the inside and outside. I bet you’re not a total package. I bet you’re good for most men. I think you’re not perfect, so why should men be perfect? What can a matchmaker do if you restrict him to such a small segment of the population while you put pressure on him to work the miracle fast?  Here is my advice.

1 Rationalize your expectations to include 50% of the available people. Rational thinking about which people are will help you.

2 Take the best care of your physical body as you can. The better shape you are in the more likely you will be attractive to who you want.

3 Make the time to meet people. If you have no time you cant date anyone.

4 Embrace the cold hard fact that no one is perfect.

It amazes me beyond the wildest of all imaginations how fast people expect to end up with the ideal perfect image that clouds their mind. Please forgive me for being harsh if you perceive it as such. I can help you reduce the self induced stress you placed on yourself with unrealistic expectations. Remember you entered this website which is the home of realistic matchmaking. Realistic matchmaking is the brand of Tri-State Dating Service. If you want to live a lie go to any of the fast buck companies who tell you what you want to hear in order to relieve you of your money. My service is less expensive. I am offering great holiday deals this year.

The most important contribution I make to your life is my personal investment in your security and finding a permanent relationship.  Start creating in your mind a willingness to accept people.

Single people are nice people; they aren’t always nice to each other. Dating is fun it can also be cruel.

Remember the following things.

1 Couples form after 8-10 dates. Give someone 8-10 chances before moving on.

2 Confidence is an attractive trait.

3 Reliability is big these days, don’t let each other down.

4 It is perfectly okay to nurture one another. Forget this nonsense about needy people, we all need each other.

5 You must care about people. Please show people you care for them.

6 Stop trying to fix the imperfect. We are all imperfect.

7 Be a visionary and view the possibilities of a future together in the brightest of outlooks.

8 Inspire all those around you. Your inspiration will draw people to you like a magnet.

9 Please be a realist. Know who you are and who you can be with.

Please remember I am your matchmaker. I want you to succeed. I want you to be grown up and not childish. I want you to think realistic. If you want a miracle I am sorry you must go elsewhere. If you want the truth, compassion, positive attitude, good advice and a success oriented strategy then get in touch with me. Please remember I can’t help you if you won’t help yourself.

John Holt

Matchmaker