Here I go again, some of you know that I feel online dating is a vast failure. The popularity of this craze came to its heightened state in 2005. The market has lost consumers every year since.  Just check out every complaint website on the internet you will find more complaints about online dating sites, you wont find any complaints about Tri-State Dating Service. Many of you go to online dating sites because you think it is a cheap way to meet people. Online dating sites are nothing more than an extension of the personal advertisements that frequented magazines and news papers. The benefit of a service like mine is safety and verification. In these electronic personals called online dating sites it is a free for all. The honor system is what you depend on there.

In dating there will forever be picky people as a matter of fact there is an epidemic of picky people in the dating pool. Many singles are meticulous and demanding. This accompanied by the fast service they look for can create a circus like atmosphere where compatibility is compromised. My advice is that you all need to stop searching for quick fixes. Stop paying attention to the television commercials from these online companies telling you how quick and easy it is. These services bait you into signing up free which is true, you can sign up free. When you decide to contact anyone a screen pops up and asks you to pay to join. This is bait and switch. Many of you are complaining in larger numbers. The frustration is building up. Please remember these online dating websites were created to addict you to the eternal candy store. They are banking on the fact that you will turn into a serial dater and keep coming back. Complaints can go from petty, ridiculous to grave and serious. Why, because these sites let anyone on including married men and woman. It is dangerous to be involved with online dating, make no mistake about it. If you do it often enough you will be harmed. Just ask any law enforcement officer. Much of what goes on in internet dating is for sexual swingers who are players. These players are looking for multiple sex partners. Most men on online dating sites are unrealistic dreamers who look at pictures and won’t contact anyone other than the top 10% of the best looking woman. Prostitutes frequent online sites looking for clients posing as single woman. Many women complain of being harassed by strange men some woman have been victims of fraud. I once interviewed a woman on my radio show Networking Singles who married a man she met online. This man stole all her life savings and then divorced her. Please beware there frauds that use online dating sites to mark their victims.

Another popular tactic used by online dating companies is to put phony or fake profiles up. I personally discovered this back in 2005 when I looked into getting into online dating. A company from Toronto Ontario Canada sent me an email saying they could host my website start it out with dummy profiles so it would look like I had allot of members. I could never be involved in anything like this. The other trick used by online sites is to keep the attractive members listed as active when in fact they are not and have not been for many months if not years. This makes you think they have huge numbers of active users. Singles fall for this every time. You base your decision to join services based on numbers when in fact it is more about compatibility. A site or service can have huge numbers yet have no one you’re looking for. The truth is about timing. Many of you suffering from dating anxiety cannot stand waiting for the right match so you fall prey to the quick buck con artists.

How many of you have unauthorized charges to your credit card? I bet you do. These sites will charge you unauthorized over and over again. The escalation of complaints should concern us all. Once again, in dating there are no quick fixes. In dating it takes work and time, realism and appropriate expectations. Many of you have headaches from being on these sites day after day for 3 hours at a time. The BBB reports record number of complaints year after year since 2006. Here is my advice to you. When you’re complaining about the demographic of the type of people your meeting in online dating remember the cheap nature of how it has been presented to you and how it operates.

Start using your brain when choosing any dating site or service. I am here to talk to you at 800-252-6210 and you will get an honest account of what to expect and what is going on. Be prepared for the cold hard facts. If your looking for the dream girl or the most interesting rich man on earth your a fool.

Should you decide wisely to give up the perils of online dating then here is what to expect from me. Reasonable fees that are attached to guaranteed amounts of service to be rendered. An honest analysis of your situation with expectations being met over time. This is not quick fixes. Please understand that no matter what you do if you’re picky then your alone allot more often and for longer periods of time.

I will treat you well however if you do not embrace the truth about yourself and can’t accept those that are truly interested in you then you will fail and remain a frustrated angry single person. I won’t ignore your phone calls. I respond to everyone.

Many online dating sites have singles who are being contacted by con artists asking for money. These con artists know how to pull on your heart strings. Many singles have been ripped off for thousands of dollars and left hurt and embarrassed. So my single friends it isn’t just your heart that gets broken it is your wallet that gets emptied out.

If you have decided to become an official refugee of online dating I want to talk to you. If you are tired of meeting crazy unbalanced people then try my service.

Remember online dating is synonymous with deception, unrealistic expectations a money grab using the slow bleed concept. The slow bleed is charging you smaller monthly fees that add up over time with little results. Many men and woman have serious emotional issues on those sites. Allot of baggage that only a professional can figure out.

Please don’t let loneliness and despair cloud your mind. In dating sites and services the desperate person makes uncontrollable demands and turns the site and service into a circus. I think you need to learn to be alone while searching.

I hope this wakes you up to the truth about dating.

John Holt

Matchmaker