Posted by John Holt on Sat, Feb 05, 2011 @ 04:13 PM

You log on. Isn't that what the free communication commercial tells you? Just log on. The problem is , you have to pay to meet anyone your communicating with. You become disappointed at deception. After all you were looking for a miracle, just like the commercial had you believe. How many of you became fools at an inter net dating site? I think your heart was cheated.

Across the land many of you decided to throw caution to the wind and sign up on one of these websites, you felt anonymous, no one really knew you were there. Wrong, if you put your picture on one of those sites chances are many people know your there. So what about privacy? Forget it.

The more you search the more you get frustrated. Many woman say to me, " Why is it that many look at my profile but never contact me"? I will tell them and all of you, it is because the men looked at your picture and your not a model. Why are men on line looking for models, gawking at pictures because those men on inter net dating sites, 90% of them are superficial or predatory.

I as a matchmaker must react to these issues in order to create a service that deals with the deeper meaning of relationship building. I must create a reversal of fortune for you. I must attempt to understand the complexities of the human being. At a web site it is a portal not a thinking human being, you can't talk to the portal as a matter of fact the portal belongs in a port a john. This miracle you wont find at free communication site, you will find bait and switch. Miracles never happen anywhere. Realistic matchmaking the brand of Tri-State Dating Service dispels myths. I teach that hope, discipline, reality, common sense and most importantly, knowing who you are and who you can be with. It isn't fluffy marketing. It is directly marketable to the single person who is fed up with tricks, deception. Now tricks and deception designed to fool your heart has been in the dating industry for years. The inter net sites had a chance to make it big in being able to serve you by taking the honest route, they choose deception. This is why even though they make huge amounts of money they aren't responsible for your miracle, many marriages, happy couples and satisfied customers, much worse your security is in question and if your a woman your in danger more than you think.

Now if your looking for nice people, the all American male and America's sweethearts you probably wont find them at an inter net dating site. I often wonder what will bring out the best in my industry instead I see deception. I am here to tell you that the old adage there is someone for everyone is true however many of you opt for miracles born out of fairy tales, dreams that make you prey to con artists and deceptive marketing. My commitment to you is to help you face reality to be the catalyst to get you to drink from the fountain of reality not the  kool aid fed to you by racketeers. Internet dating sites are being sued for having profiles that are not active, listing them as active. They send you e mails just as your account is expiring telling you all these people want to meet you, as soon as you recharge the account, pay the money those people dissapear. I ask you how do you feel about this? Is this misguided business? Of course it is, they know your searching for the miracle. The inter net dating site is the biggest mousetrap ever created. The road to success is to figure out that finding people on your own or hiring a professional to help you is much smarter, however some of you are cheap or some of you think your spending low amounts of money hanging out there on the inter net. Guess what, all your paying for is portal space rental, you have to do the work, didn't you pay them? Why are you doing the work. Because your in a mousetrap, now your on the wheel spinning it. You know what I mean it is you who is doing the work, oh I know you sent 100 inquiries it took 3 hours a day for four days in a row, your passionately frustrated, you only got ten answers, five of them dissapeared after the first few e mails they found the next one and the one after that. You have five left, you got rid of two of them. This means your going out to meet three in person hoping maybe one will be your miracle on earth all your dreams come true, chances are this person is normal, chances are this person is mentally ill. Chances are your miracle is so charming your euphoric, this person is so romantic and cares about you chances are this person is so charming that they stole your money or sexually assaulted you. Chances are gambling. Whats your odds? At my dating service there has never been any harm done to anyone in 19 years of it's existence. Miracles don't happen at Tri-State Dating Service what does happen is realistic matchmaking that makes sense. I ask, have you found your miracle in inter net dating?

I think many of you are misguided if you think miracles as advertised are going to happen to you by logging on.

What are your needs in a relationship? It must be determined what you need in a relationship. It must be your level of confidence. I consult singles with absolute confidence. I know the pitfalls of human behavior. It is impossible for a machine to understand the complexities of human behavior. There are statistical laws in play that make gambling difficult to succeed at. On line dating is gambling, it is running the odds. Your odds in on line dating are 12 success' in 100 people 88 fail 12 succeed. So should you fall in love with on line dating? Here is the biggest reason that men should run fast from those web sites. Just keep looking over time who the woman are. They are the same woman, month after month year after year, why, because your not perfect enough for them so they stay there hoping Mr. Perfect shows up, he never does. There is no future, no miracle. Your not Mr. Perfect are you? Flukes, accidents do happen this is why 12 succeed, by accident.

It is intense to be in a relationship it is 24/7 commitment. How you get there is your choice. I am here for you to help you sort out what makes sense. I think I have a compelling argument. Maybe you feel your own pressure to succeed. I meet many singles who are on a mission. This is timing and patience, understanding, your just kidding yourself if you believe the non sense and become a sacrificial lamb to the inter net. Take a look at yourself, aren't you complex in nature? How can a machine help you with human psychology. In everyday life progress should be the benchmark, to often on inter net dating sites you start making little progress and regression sets in, why, because you were making progress sending e mails then poof the person you were corresponding with is gone, no explanation, gone with the wind. A candy store is what your in. Your the flavor of the next three days then it is on to another flavor. I know if you do anything long enough things are bound to turn around, don't bet on it, oops I forgot it's gambling. Do your questions get answered in minutes or at all at those websites. Here at Tri-State Dating Service they get answered carefully, thoughtfully and strategy is put in place. I combine careful thought with reality. Any smart person over time will escape the madness of inter net dating.

Can you estimate your chances to succeed then gamble on line. If you want direction to reality then bet on me. If your looking for miracles you wont find them anywhere. Take advantage of my expertise, now until Valentines day you get a 20% discount on my service.

John Holt

Matchmaker

Comments

i have been reading these newsletters for the last couple of weeks and it is starting to make sense what is being said now to get the finances together to use a matchmaker

Posted @ Saturday, February 05, 2011 6:45 PM by maria rose

Thank you Maria, My service is not that expensive. I am running a 20% discount until midnight valentines day. 
 
John Holt

Posted @ Saturday, February 05, 2011 7:25 PM by John Holt