On behalf of Tri-State Dating Service I wish anyone who reads this and the many members a very meaningful holiday season. I have permeated the world of singles and dating over the last 20 years. I must say these are challenging times. Men and woman should use this season to rebuild trust to spread goodwill. My unique perspective about the current climate finds me writing to you in spirit. The spirit of the season should bring us all to think. It is time to heal from the toxic thinking. It is a time to celebrate. This season is special. I get into a different mood, one of Great Spirit. Please understand the ship must travel back on course next year. The expectations combined with anger over not achieving these expectations must be reviewed. I hope that humor reaches many of you. It is important to laugh, rejoice and enjoy each other. I hope that the spirit of the season finds you in good health retaining your dignified role in humanity. I am hoping your imaginations are bringing gifts to one another this year. The best gift is a wonderful relationship. The idea of a relationship breeds fear in many. I say that this year in this time as part of the spirit of the season is time for new development.

I am fascinated daily about the failures combined with venom of many singles. The blame is squarely placed on you. If you’re alone for Christmas it is because you never did anything to keep that from happening. It is your choice. There are many people out there who understand they are unrealistic yet they never reflect on putting that thinking to rest. All of humanity deserves a positive relationship. Just because there is stress in your life, it is no excuse for spreading goodwill this time of the year. There should be more happy people than angry people. Anger is destructive.

Dating is a work in progress requiring social skills. The best skills this time of year are associated with caring about each person you come in contact with. New possibilities this time of year are special. Please don’t reject the idea of meeting people. I made it very nice for you this year, just go to my front page on this website and see the deals you get for joining now and up until 12/31/11

Dating is about real meaningful people who find the intrinsic value of one another. This holiday season I ask you to value all real life interaction, pause and realize you are a rich human being from knowing people. If you’re single and miserable please remember that even scrooge turned it around.

Running a dating business is about goodwill this time of the year. If you meet me you will know my sincerity. Dating is psychological and sociological in its complexity. Please make an otherwise complex human activity worthwhile. I ask we remember all humanity and be kind to all people. I hope the rich spectrum of activities is a part of your holiday season. Let dating be expansion of your spirit and a part of your real life. Dating is about warm real intimate human relations.

Now ladies please hope that if this was the husband store your gift would be greatly appreciated. Wouldn’t it be nice to find that husband here? My men here have jobs they are fun to talk to reasonably attractive looking. Maybe in front of the tree this year you will embrace.

Your character shines through this time of year. If you’re a spirited person you will receive the gift of connection this time of year. I must say that the genesis of interpersonal relationships blossoms in very memorable way this time of year. The meaning of the season facilitates contact of a warm, passionate and wonderful way. This time of year you can embrace another single person, find common ground attain a comfortable degree of intimacy. You can cherish just how special this season is.

The dynamics of a great relationship is interpersonal connection. The holiday season builds in the chance to attain connection. Celebrations bring fun and closeness to them.

It is true that dating is a game. Please consider feelings. Please try to treat others with dignity. Dating in the holidays requires you the dater to play in the game. It requires you to be joyous in each situation, try not to look at or seek out negativity. The objective now until the New Year is to establish contact, celebrate together is personally fulfilled. It must be your belief that your burning desire to be coupled has bigger meaning at this time. Now is the time to create circumstances that will promote your well being. The holiday season strategy should be that through a series of coordinated actions success will be by attaining relational goals. The means are at your disposal. Please don’t run away from being alone. I don’t want you to be depressed. I want you to fulfill your goals have interaction. From interaction to relational goals equals actual interaction. The level of social interaction exists this time of year. It exists only if you have an attitude of goodwill.

The biggest drawback to single at the holidays is not socializing. When you get social you expose yourself to other people. There might be a person in the social setting that may discover you as a romantic interest. You might say it is such a risk to be looking this time of year. I say it is never a better time of year to look. Your holiday can be a success from the start when you embrace new people. There are others out there that will be Ebeneezer Scrooge. I say bah humbug  to all misery. I say we rejoice together to end miserable thinking.

So what does single at the holidays mean for you? I want you to be my next member. I want you to be introduced soon to someone you’ll like. The season is here; embrace it as one of spreading goodwill.

I pledge to work very hard for you this time of year. I am not forgetting you this time of year. A matchmaker’s labor is a labor of love. I am distinctive. I think that this time of year is special. This time of year has special connective powers. There are many people taking advantage of holiday savings. Already there are people from White Plains N.Y., Cranston R.I., Providence R.I., North Providence R.I., Litchfield C.T., Newington C.T., Bristol R.I., Orange C.T., and many more.

If you understand the meaning of each of the holidays this time of year it is based on certain religious aspects. I say to you that all religions that celebrate in December have one thing in common that is goodwill towards man. I say goodwill from men to woman and woman to men. No room for hate. Let anger take a vacation. I say you should find happiness. I am watching over the singles community and I am hoping that goodwill is the theme. The celebration of goodwill can be permanent. The way we treat each other is with kindness, we can’t continue to be angry.

I think the single person who attempts to meet someone will be forever being rewarded with human contact. This is better than bitterness and loneliness.

John Holt