Christmas has always been one of my favorite holidays. There is always a certain feeling you get this time of year.  I will next say that for those that allow a feeling of enchantment, Christmas can be special.

A matchmaker must deal with two kinds of people this time of year. I deal with the festive, happy person. I also deal with the miserable venomous one. I certainly enjoy the happy festive soul much better. I have seen the happy single person get lucky and find someone. I have faced down the venom of the miserable and it get’s ugly. I get inspired by the success the happy one achieves. I feel sorry for the miserable one who can’t understand that being happy is attractive. Being single during the holidays can be a tough thing. I am here to tell you that being single is not a bad thing. Single people are just that, single people, just as good as any other person. I say merry Christmas to all single people. My existence is blessed with many of you. I am hoping that more of you are festive and happy. If you are miserable then keep it to yourself.

Being single this time of the year is a choice that 98% of you have control over. 2% have no control because you’re not accepted by most everyone. This is sad, however it is true. Both men and woman over the last 3 years have drifted apart in the dating pool. This condition has left many of you right where you are this time of year, single! It isn’t my fault or anyone else’s that you don’t accept each other. It is deep inside you. It may very well be in your DNA. Some anthropologists suggest that you’re predisposed by of all things, a scent that you get from one another. I think this is ridiculous. Did you know there is DNA dating theories out there that after a lab test you get matched with your perfect chemistry match? I think a lot of this never takes into account how humans interact, so I believe in many factors with personality being the main one. There seems to be no explanation why singles are attracted to what each other looks like. I have seen the best of the beautiful people end up in divorce. The men these days are as ridiculous about what you woman should look like as any time in my 20 years of matchmaking. If you aren’t on a strict diet and exercising 4 hours a day you might never pass the test. Now at Christmas many of the men will be alone and part of the miserable set. Ladies you’re not without scrutiny either. You’re single at this time of year because you have a list of perfections that all men must meet in criteria. The fact is that barely any of these men will meet your unrealistic expectations. I continue to promote realistic matchmaking as the brand of Tri-State Dating Service. I will forever believe in it. I will continue to spread reality. The reality on Christmas is goodwill. I am critical. I care about you. I want you to be happy. The world in general is not a happy place. Many single people are not happy. I hope you become enchanted at Christmas. I hope you discover the spirit. I say you should be heard. I say you should receive guidance. I continue to say merry Christmas.

Let’s be clear about you being single and alone on Christmas. It is a time to reflect, be honest with yourself. Take the spirit of Christmas to heart and search your soul. You are one of us, a member of the human race. I say, join us. I further say that you’re not better than anyone else. Be clear about getting ready to change from miserable to happy. Start giving people a chance. Please don’t say that you don’t know what you want. I think you know. The question you should ask yourself is, could I be unrealistic about what I want? Start to take a walk through a Christmas light display, do it alone. While you are there look around and see all the people who have found someone. The family that gathers there. The couples that are enjoying each other and make a Christmas wish. The wish you make will be like this. I wish not to be alone. I further wish to learn to accept people and learn about them. I further wish to be kind to people and not be cruel. I wish to be someone who fits in with people socially. Finally I wish for inner peace by realizing I am human and not better than everyone else.

Please remember, chasing each other and playing foolish games will never get you kissed under the mistletoe.  Just become enchanted with the spirit, make the best of this season. Catch the spirit. Be honest and accepting and just be your happy self. Please don’t confuse yourself. There is no excuse for venom towards the opposite sex. There is no room for complaining about no one being for you.  Just be honest with yourself. I think you will be surprised when you let go of your pre conceived notions.

I’m just that lightning rod matchmaker causing you to reflect. I want you to be happy. I want you to catch the Christmas spirit. It’s time to loosen up and enjoy Christmas. It is time to understand each other. Men and woman must begin to understand one another soon. I hope that inconsistency in your mind leaves you during this time of year.

A romance during Christmas can be electrifying, dynamic full of faith to each other. Maybe you think I am corny, maybe we need to retreat back to a warmer period of time.

The crazy idea of romance this time of year when many of you are making up excuses to be single can make you or break you.

Merry Christmas to all of you whether you agree or disagree with me. Remember acceptance is the spirit of Christmas, goodwill is the attitude. Accept each other for all the imperfection that exists inside of all of you. If you are capable of love then you will accept those single people as potential as they are.

John Holt

Matchmaker