Hi everyone, it is time to begin to get a grip on reality, curb anxiety, and adopt a strategy of willing acceptance. In 2011 I saw an all time record number of bitter singles who are on this endless search for the perfect one! Even though time and time again I have in numerous ways advised you that there is no perfect one for anyone!

Let’s embark on a new way of thinking. My first thought is, can we treat each other with tenderness? Can we show each other we are kind and caring? Thoughtfulness is a great virtue. I think about all of you daily. I keep thinking about how I can get men and women to accept each other. I try hard to summon my inner strength. The fact is many of you are jaded and close minded. A new breath of fresh air should be your goal in 2012. The word yes should become a regular word in your vocabulary. If you want to take your love life to the next level you must embrace reality. Just the other day a term about young children was used in a conversation with a woman who see’s them as "baggage". How can we refer or cheapen the idea of a child as "baggage". Do we value human beings when we think of them as a suitcase to be carried around? I like children. They are human beings. So where does this narrow thinking come from?  I say wipe the negative stuff out of your life. Cleanse your mind start to affirm your best side. Embrace the fact that all of you can care deeply about one another and stop thinking in terms of I and me.

What is important? I will tell you. I bet you knew I would. Acceptance is the one trait that must be embraced by single people everywhere. In your space in the universe you can make room for someone. The work you must do to make room is formidable. The idea must be deliberated over time. The time you spend with someone actually getting to know them for real. I have news for you it isn’t a 1 hour meeting. Perception quite often is not reality. Whatever happened to mutual admiration? Single people must learn to admire the opposite sex. Appreciation for the presence of companionship on a date. Striking balance between your professional life and dating. It takes a level of care to form commitment. A special piece of advice to men is to adopt commitment, woman want commitment. Can we start to capitalize on the huge amount of opportunities that I know about? This idea that no one is good enough must go into the sunset of your mind. Let the sun go down on being stuck up.

Communication is the central nervous system of life. The proper way we communicate with each other has all to do with a successful future. If you communicate with a smile and have interest in people you meet, the best will come back to you.

Have many of you heard it takes compromise to have a successful relationship. This can’t happen while selfishness is at an all time high. I want to hear more about what you’re willing to do rather than what you refuse to do. Many of you are refusing your way to being single for life.

A special message to those who are picky while operating in desperation. You know who you are. You’re the one, that out of desperation is asking for dates that need to be perfect and happen often and fast. This turns matchmaking into a circus. Compatibility is key in the decisions we matchmakers make anything else is a shot in the dark.

Fairness with one another is absolute. It takes a reasonable person to understand that dating and building relationships takes time. In today’s world of picky behavior it will take massive amounts of patience and flexibility combined with acceptance. The time for civility is here. The time for patience and understanding has arrived. The time to become less frustrated and angry is upon us.

In dating friendships form with all the fun activities you can imagine. Dating is not an analysis of everything about someone until you get serious. Dating is not early on, a marriage audition. Dating is not a police style interrogation. Dating is fun! We must have fun on dates. We must be gentle with each other. I think we should be grateful that we have someone to date. Someone who is fun and can entertain.

My feeling is that all of you need to be honest about who you are, too many singles are telling white lies about who they are because many singles wont accept each other as they are. You are just fine as you are, just being confident. I think we should reward individuality.

Integrity is important we must aspire to be good to other people. My aspiration is to help you see that your value systems must have linkage. I see lively people as those that can be contagious we must alleviate stress and be vibrant.

Maturity is important; too often I observe childish behavior. I must help people recover from child like games singles play on each other.

In order to reach love you must respect people. The idea of being open to each other without fear. Being polite to one another is important.

Practicality is a must. In order to embrace matchmaking you must be rid of ridiculous dreams that will never come true. I can’t emphasize it enough that you must be practical in who you can expect to end up with.

It is foolish to dwell in negativity. It is impossible when you condition your mind to complain all the time about everything to do with your life and the opposite sex.

I am here to help deliver you from the current problems and help you succeed.

John Holt

Matchmaker