Online Internet Dating Relationship Building or Unhealthy Addiction
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Oct 03, 2009 @ 03:21 PM
Did you know that only 12% of people who use internet dating sites ever find anyone they stay with, much worse it is viewed by anyone who will admit it as a candystore.In the online dating website world the candystore mentality means that you always look for another flavor.The next one is always better than the last one.This is a dating merry go round for players to enjoy.Admittedly there are 12% of you who find true love.There are 21% of you doing that at tri-state dating.
Here is how I see it, either your serious or your a casual surfer or much worse a player.Being a player is self serving for the egotistical.The internet also breeds a certain bravado of behavior such as avoidance, ignorance and generally rude mistreatment, afterall you think who will ever find you.If you think no one knows what you are doing your the naive one, you threw confidentiality out the window especially on social networking sites which by the way are full of predators mixed in with nice people, so is it a predator you might meet or a nice person.Online 40% of those people on websites are at the very least people with bad intentions, so roll the dice if you like those odds.I know your careful you torture everyone with millions of e mails before you will meet someone, is this unreasonable paranoid behavior or just being safe and what about potential employers who search the net to find out what you do.Everyone who goes on this computer who knows you follows you.It is human to be curious.This is why I keep you confidential at my service tri state dating.
Now the internet itself can be addicting, even though it is the greatest place on earth to gather information it can addict you so that you spend too much time on it.Most people who look for people on the net never end up anything other than frustrated.Worse of all it is now considered an unhealthy compulsion which many psychologists can add to there issues to deal with.The internet interferes with daily tasks, inhibits real in person social behavior causes stress among friends and family, loved ones and pollutes the workplace.Many employers have workers doing personal things on there computer while they are paying them to do a job.An addict becomes dependent on something just like a drug or gambling addiction.In the case of online dating sites people begin to have cyber relationships that comfort them actually keeping them from meeting in person.This is self gratifying temporary behavior rather than experience deeper connection in person, yes it isn't normal to just have cyberspace relationships.Preoccupation with the internet can deteriorate your other functions in life.
Many people will find in the future that internet compulsive and destructive behavior will lead an internal struggle.Inevitably in order to achieve deep lasting relationships you must connect live and in person.Cyberspace is an escape from reality and worse an escape from confronting each other in person, it creates a fantasy world where you never have to be yourself, you can be anyone you want however you will be a fraud.
People who over rely on the internet can travel down the road to destruction.I certainly think the internet is still in many ways good for certain functions, developing relationships is not one of them.I say everyone should be mindful of your attitudes toward people.Even though you think your anonomous your not.Anyone can find you if your on the net.So is online dating working, torturing you, emotionally draining you and taking up your time? For 12% it is wonderful they found love.What about the 88% left behind who were indifferent, frustrated, drained of there money in monthly fees, lied to, decieved, tricked, sexually asaulted