Posted by John Holt on Wed, Sep 30, 2009 @ 10:20 AM
Did you ever look at the philosophy that I live by.The philosophy that is everyday is a special occasion, a new opportunity to achieve what I want.I so richly subscribe to this theory.I want my clients to be in a gratifying relationship to attain great things in life of intrinsic value.The aspirations you continue to put in the back of your mind should be part of creating your special occasion, today not tommorrow not another time not next week or next year.I will never forget a woman back in the 90s who was so afraid to meet people she was from manchester connecticut.She called me and told me that she saw my ad every year in the yellow pages.I asked " how many years had she seen it" she repled 4 years, wow and she told me she was fearful of meeting people and hadn't dated for all those 4 years anyone.Maybe this is you.Perhaps you come to my website and read my articles, you may have even sent a form to me but you told yourself maybe next time, next week, next month oh I'll do it later then what happens, you guessed it nothing.From nothing you get nothing.
Daily life is precious it is here for 24 hours and gone forever.Procrastination is the culprit, maybe you blame the economy.Maybe you have decided to hoard your money because your afraid you will be the next to get laid off.Relationships are a part of life whether your poor or rich and they have no monetary value. so isn't today your day to change.Being in the game is better than the sidelines sitting on the bench.If you ever played sports you don't want to be on the bench.Daily life is for living with purpose and spirit.
Don't worry I John Holt matchmaker of 18 years can help.I am a realistic motivator of humans. I seek to inspire you to move forward to be proactive.I hope this makes sense to the fearful.I am in business to be helpful.
Relationships on the scale of importance are more important than money, more important than a job.You can be employed wealthy and miserable.A meaningful relationship can make you happy and purposeful.If your happy you likely have a purpose and you might be kept on at the job when it comes down to you vs. the human miserable one.Let's begin to be honest, lonliness should be yesterdays condition.You should be hot on the trail to that special someone.I just think I can stimulate your imaginative process.It is ever so important to move now not later.Maybe someday is today or is it one day soon or I will wait.I say what are you waiting for, age to catch up.Life is passing you by isn't yes you! do I have your undivided attention?I hope so my friend because I want to be your catalyst for a brighter future.I wish to be an indespensible professional you utilize for your well being.I want to inovate your love life.Guide you to intriguing possibilities.I know maybe next month and then it will boo hoo I'm alone for the holidays again, whoa is me.Poor me, maybe next year.Invest in your future and today is your future.
The small things in life shared are the memories burned in your soul for life.Don't regret your decisions and don't wait to make them.Dont delay, postpone opportunity , seize it.Take control of your destiny.Each day, each minute, live in the idea of opportunity.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Tue, Sep 29, 2009 @ 09:11 PM
I have been busy matching potential single couples and arranging fun dinner parties.I love autumn especially october.The countryside will be full of color real soon.Do you think you will walk hand and hand into the foliage and taste the mystery of romance?Men, woman are about love and romance, so what will you men be doing about the true meaning of this.Getting connected starts with a goal of being available, afterall I am just the mood enhancer here.True connection is felt it becomes powerful in your life.The days are days you look forward to.I think for many years you can understand that meaningful relationships are the psychological medicine of the mind and spirit, it is endless positive energy, something to look forward to.
Mystery is fun to pursue, so start living, chase the mystery of who she is, find out who he is.My experience tells me that the beautiful time of the year is october.Take a walk into your creative dreams.I think perhaps your exquisite and deserving of meeting the one and only.
Stay positive my single friends and join me in this illuminating journey into relationship pursuit.Embrace many interactions, they might turn into deep conversations under the burning maples of autumn.Lead a normal happy life sharing it with someone meaningful.I think it is soothing to read this, don't you?
Yes in 2009 october will be a great time to illuminate your mind, your soul and your quest for relationship building.Prioritize this in your life.Autumn is wonderful to walk in with someone.Fun dates, conversations and daytrips are ahead for the wise people who believe autumn is the time.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Tue, Sep 29, 2009 @ 12:15 PM
Hi everyone, so is millionaire matchmaker, the bachelor, beauty and the geek and others out there real everyday dating reality or sensationalism for the buck.I prefer the love connection re runs over these shows.I'll take Chuck Woolery dealing with singles gratification vs. despair on those dates they went on.Don't get me wrong Patty Stanger knows how to tell it like it is however the plot is so staged it doesn't portray reality and I would like to think I am everybodies realistic matchmaker.
I think millionaire matchmaker gives you the impression that millionaires are around every corner. I have millionaires at tri state they make up 2% of my data base.So do these shows play on your dreams? Do you live vicariously through the players on these shows. Is it brains or beauty the men on these shows want? I think men are men and visualization is a big part of men.The bigger question is do these shows breed reality for you? I say no.Many of you will never live your lives as they do on that show which creates a false sense of who you can meet and end up with.
Now can you imagine that what these shows really suggest is that personal shoppers, image consultants, psychotherapists, dating and life coaches and yes people like me matchmakers are your dream team to the future home run you will hit, that if you can afford it is probably money well spent, be ready to learn alot about you.
Whether we like these shows or not they are here to stay.I think we all should be candid with each other and learn from our interactions.The captivating element about this is it glamorizes the dating world you function in, creates a soap opera atmosphere and we all love to be entertained don't we? Men woman love to be entertained, if your not entertaining your classified as boring and you wont get the next date with them.These shows raise it up a notch so take them in for ideas.These shows also show the challenging nature of dating.The challenges to overcome to reach a love life.The message they send is that personal appeal, charm and charisma guide success, you better go to charm school if you lack in these attributes.
I still think the dating game, love american style, newlywed game and love connection is more americana, more classic and yes more fun! Remember fun in dating is important.So does real compatibility win over money and status on millionaire matchmaker and what about one of my favorites Joe Millionaire, didn't he expose what goldiggers are really all about.I loved the butler on that show he was insightful and fun to listen to.
At the end of the day you really want to be excited, thrilled and entertained don't you?
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Mon, Sep 28, 2009 @ 08:57 AM
Ladies and gentleman are we far too difficult with each other.I say yes and civility is important although that seems to be hard to find.I believe that high stress levels have created the behavior we see out in our everyday world.Dating issues are no different, how our own personal levels of stress are handled will come out in our dating relationships.Accelerated levels of stress will turn you into a negative person fast.When you are negative you will be someone that is not attractive. What are todays dating issues.
1 Negative aspects of a stressed out personality.The remedy to that is to either control yourself and make a positive transitional appearance.This means change your attitude before going out and meeting people.Another way to deal with this is to participate in fun activities that are co-ed in nature, you are bound to have fun and your attitude is likely going to change.
2 Overselectivity, Did you ever wonder that maybe you might think of yourself as too good for most available singles.This one breeds frustration which causes stress as you lament over finding your ideal match.Stop and think how many people fit your overly stringent criteria.The remedy for this to open up your criteria.Agree to meet 50% of the available people available to you.At the very least you open up learning more about them.When you learn more about someone they might become more attractive to you.
3 Fear of the unknown, yes we live in a scary world, however there are far less scary people in it than you think.I know everytime the media get's a story it scares you.The real bad people out there are in very small nimbers.I have never had an incident in the 18 years of running tri-state dating service where anyone was harmed.The remedy for helping you to be less fearful would be to hire me to screen people. The other remedy is too try to convince yourself that life is a risk.When new to the dating world or being reintroduced to it again you will need to put aside fears while still taking precautions.
4 Really making yourself available.This is true many singles fake being available.They give an impression they really want to be in relationships and they sabotage every opportunity by using avoidance techniques.I have had some singles write a check to me just to have a scapegoat.This behavior is destructive on many levels and often I must educate these people in order to change things.
Here are some suggested ideas to turn positive from negative.
1 Be confident and self reliant in approaching the opposite sex with a good attitude.
2 Become serious about dating for relationship purposes.
3 Project yourself as a person with high spirit.
4 Do things you enjoy so your metal stability stays in tact.In fun will be positive attitude.
5 All ways be truthful with yourself and other people, this makes you trustworthy.
6 Remain upbeat about the future, whoa is me is not attractive, smile!
7 Be versatile and accepting of a broad array of activities and personalities.
8 Try to be fun and witty.
I as a matchmaker will try to always understand the needs of daters and what their goals are.This will help you succeed.I think now is the time you stepped forward and really made a postive effort.Turning your negatives into positives is a skill I posess if you allow it to happen.The very first thing you must do is assess yourself, is the stress of todays world turning you sour.Having an identity in dating that is positive is successful having a negative identity in dating will produce failure.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Sep 27, 2009 @ 09:53 AM
Hi everyone, you better believe now is the time.If your tired of dating your computer mouse and have had enough of the online shallowness then hiring a matchmaker could be productive.I keep your privacy safe.When your on the internet in one of those sites your out there for everyone to see what your doing.I also screen members for your safety.At tri-state I have members from 25-85 years old, all viable single and available.
Autumn has a romantic tinge to it with the foliage, fairs, festivals, football games with tailgating.What a time to do something for yourself and I am here and ready to help.
The countdown to the holiday season is here.Many of you will lament that you have nobody to share it with.This is an 8 week period of time coming up to begin a relationship with others, maybe the development of a significant relationship.
We are social human beings who crave connection and acceptance.I think that many of you are sitting on the sidelines because your worried about the economy which by the way has not affected my business.More people used matchmakers this year than in previous years.The business rolls on and always in need of new interesting members.My mission is to rescue you from the nonsense of online dating.I know about the people you will meet.I meet everyone in person and interview them, and I love what I do.I do everything in life with responsibility and passion.In my tasks there is no room for anything less than 100% effort.I live and breathe my business.I am also fun oriented. I like to put the fun back in dating.I love conversation with my members.In short I am inspirational.
Begining the dating process starts with your confidence. I enhance your confidence by matching you with the right people.Insight is an attribute in picking the right people.
Here are some important things that getting out there brings to your life.
1 Your self worth and esteem raise to a higher level.
2 Your energy level is high because your looking forward to life.
3 Your confidence increases and permeates your entire life, you look like someone to be with.
4 Your now out there with focus on your goal, your actually doing something about it.
5 Your now positive not wallowing in negativity.
You know there are 100 million single men and woman in the united states.If being single has been an affliction to you let me end it , we can happily work toward ending that for you.I want to change your human condition to positive.Change is difficult however to stay single because your in fear is worse.I bet you have a unique purpose in life to share with someone.Living with purpose introduces you to a rich meaningful life.We live with wisdom we die with lonliness.I choose vibrant life.I have vision, my vision is to provide a venue for nice people to meet each other.When you live with purpose love will be magnetic, when we complain and whine we wallow in misery, when we live with fear we are stifled from reaching our goals.The fact is a good relationship brings richness, passion, satisfaction, personal fullfillment and reward.The formula to life is risk brings reward.I hope I have inspired you, perhaps your the next successful person at tri state dating service.Stop lamenting in fear and become proactive and bright. I love being the catalyst for your goals.
John Holt
Matchmaker
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Posted by John Holt on Fri, Sep 25, 2009 @ 02:04 PM
Hi everyone, yes indeed image is very important in atracting the opposite sex.How you present yourself, how you create that self portrait has much to do with perception.If you think perception is not the guiding force think twice.Even though perception has little to do with reality it does impact who dates you.
Do you have dreams of who you want to date? Then you must find out what is atractive to them and pursue making yourself that image.However I caution you to deeply think if that would be compromising who you really are.Please don't be naive to the fact that a makeover might not help you.When you do your makeover think of personality, total body, aesthetic appearance, style and attitude.When you have a workable plan to enhance yourself you might get more dates than not.
A image makeover should consist of a plan a chain of actions, a series of attainable qualities.These plans should push you in the direction of positive image.Your plan of action should be consistent.The plan should be realistic and help you attain dates with the one you want.
Here are some positive image ideas.
1 Keeping in good physical shape, not only will you be happy, healthy but you will look better.
2 Aquire a charming way to talk to someone with tact.
3 Be flirtatious it's fun and it helps.
4 Be knowledgeable about many subjects.You can have great conversation if you know many things.
5 Compliment the opposite sex when you see their good qualities.
6 Hygeine is important make yourself clean and presentable.
7 Smile, barely anyone turns away from a smile.
8 Strike up a conversation that projects who you are.
9 Always make eye contact and exude confidence.
10 Be happy and try to be positive.
11 show interest, be eager to learn and listen to your date.
These are the small things in your personal image to be aware of. Making yourself attrative is the key to success in dating.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Sep 25, 2009 @ 08:40 AM
Hi everyone, it is becoming very obvious to this matchmaker that many dating traditional path's are changing to an allmost anything goes pursuit.This week we have the buzz about cougars out there.Cougars are sexy, seductive, confident and successful older woman pursuing men around 20 years younger than them. We still have older men chasing woman 20 years younger than them, that has gone on for years. Marriages come to an end at about a 55% rate of divorce.Woman are attempting marriage and child birth in their forty's. Many of the younger dater's are choosing not to get married.In the very young population having children out of wedlock is up in statistics. Many widows and widowers are choosing not to remarry just have a relationship.What is behind all of this?
Is marriage a dwindling institution?Our culture is breaking down here in the united states and fast.The marriage culture is being replaced with ideas such as free sexual relationships, live in relationships with no committment toward marriage.Commuter marriages where you see your spouse on weekends.Polyamorous marriages, Permanent singlehood and glad of it.Same sex partnerships and marriage,The byproducts of this relationship shift in focus is children out of wedlock confused as to who their parent figure really is, registering domestic partners for benefit purposes, friends with benefits,divorce and remarriage multiple times,step families created at larger numbers, so we can no longer expect most people to spend most of their lives in one traditional style.Do you think many people in this dating landscape are happy?
In looking for answers to this I can clearly advocate for connection and intimacy, it either draws you together and with continued work keeps you there or without it you float.When you float you might get caught up with these new ways of thinking.The conventional wisdom is that relationships aren't formed like they used to be formed.Let me take a chance and explain it as I see it.
The internet has created a place where many men and woman can go and meet in virtual space without ever really knowing who you are dealing with.There are websites for every kind of dating from just finding people to meet and date to all kinds of sexual preference dating and yes married people are tempted and are out there too.This helps raise the divorce rate through just plain temptation. The internet is also the playground of many predators.About 40% of those using an online dating website or social networking site are fraudulent or much worse.There are documented cases of harmful criminal things that have taken place from meeting people on line. Another problem we have is that the younger generation coming up have seen their parents get divorced and are either psychologically damaged from what happened or at least fearful that they too will be a divorce statistic. I also as a matchmaker saw a trend for quite some time where many young woman would not settle for just about anyone.It seemed settling was reserved for the wealthy, upwardly mobile, charming, good looking and highly educated male.I firmly believe that this behavior gave way to the idea of cougars.Young ladies when you say no the cougars say yes.Men as a result of all this are living in role confusion. I quite often find men who are trying to fit in.Woman are now dictating how,relationships form, their are alot of mixed signals out there.I think much of it is based on total equality which in many ways is a good thing.Gone are the days where men are the prime decision makers, men do not and should not control woman, is it really what woman want? Some woman have told me that men are not strong enough anymore, is this true? I don't think so. I would say men are tentative and confused. Intentions these days are shrouded in lack of trust that many woman have in men.I here from woman who say that men can't be permanently dependable.This goes to the core of monogamy.Men can't pull there weight financially because they are losing their jobs and status.This all recedes confidence and confidence is still a big attractor to woman.By the way when a man breaks a womans trust it is harder for woman to believe in the next man that comes along.
So my friends here are some things you should consider when trying to form what seems to be a variety of todays complicated relationships.
1 Men and woman must begin to really try to understand each other and embrace this understanding process.
2 Men and woman must refrain from attempting to control or otherwise manipulate each other to get what they want.
3 Men and woman must become more civil, patient and kind to each other.A healthy respect for each others feelings, absent anger.
4 Before leaving a marriage or long term relationship really try hard to work things out, don't act in haste.The grass is not any greener on the other side, believe me.
5 Please dont choose your partner based on wealth.Wealthy people have issues too.
6 Try regardless of age to give someone a chance, you just might be attracted and surprised.
7 Before entering into a relationship understand the feelings of people it is an emotional game you are involved in.People get hurt.
Having been a matchmaker for 18 years I have to understand all of you out there and my responsibilty to help you navigate through this dating landscapoe which is everchanging is what I do.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Thu, Sep 24, 2009 @ 08:12 AM
Todays 20 and 30 somethings are embracing being single.This is a statement of lifestyle.I am also seeing a trend of divorced men past age 50 who really want all the benefits of a dating relationship without committment and marriage.Some singles see themselves permanently single and celebrate it.Marriage as an institution is breaking down along with traditional dating values, we are shifting toward an anything goes method of being with each other.There is now cougars out there, what is a cougar you might ask.A cougar is a woman who dates and pursues men 20 years younger.Ladies if the idea appeals to you then here is one piece of advice, you must be stylish, sexy and seductive or you wont find your cub.Remember the movie the graduate, well the mrs. robinson fantasy is alive and well, so I ask are you mrs. robinson?
Younger woman many of them have decided that if he isn't Mr. Perfect then I stay single.Ladies please! Mr. Perfect was a fictitious charecter created by wrestling promoter Vince McMahon he doesn't exist.
Cougars, young woman looking for perfection, men after 50 chasing much too young woman for them, friends with benefits, divorce rate at 55%, no one after 50 thinking of themselves as just that.
Whatever happened to conventional relationships, traditional marriage?Can men be monogomous? Has hollywood made this all about steamy sex?Afterall we have desperate housewives which I am sure men watch.This week ABC came out with cougartown, hey ladies past 45 here is your dose of fantasy.Hey if men can do it so can woman.There is sex in the city, the bachelor, the bachelorette and remember my favorite Joe millionaire, I loved that one.I by the way love the old reruns of the love connection. I can relate to Chuck Woolery playing referee to singles.
Now what if your the lady who still believes in prince charming? Isn't that a fairytale?Most of the woman in dating lament that prince charming is not available.The fact is many woman are trying to date only 5% of you men, wow what are the rest doing? Struggling mightily.I bet cougars on the scene will expand that number.Young ladies think about this, a cougar will say yes at the end of the night you often say no and we all hate rejection.Does it now become a big surprise that two thirds of young woman below 40 are comfortable single or frustrated with imperfection.
Now what about you men, yes you! How many woman are knockouts and beautiful, slender babes of your dreams? The answer is 6% and you better be magnificent looking with alot of money to be with them, you also will be ready to behave like a trained circus animal as many of them are spoiled brats.The girl next door with sex appeal is much better.
All of what I write here is has enormous consequences on our singles population.So are singles now officially the sex and the city generation that turn into the players of desperate housewives and then become divorced and part of cougartown.What in the world is next.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Wed, Sep 23, 2009 @ 09:39 AM
During the past 18 years of matchmaking I have found a plethora of issues that many of us have discussed together.I quite often find myself giving advice that was solicited and sometimes I must give advice that people need to hear.Today I thought I would provide the 20 most important pieces of advice to people who are single.
1 Please treat each other with the uttmost consideration, spend at least several hours with someone before discharging them as unworthy or not for you.When you decide someone is not for you please tell the truth and be very kind.Do not tell a lie to someone your rejecting 85% of those lied to realize it and don't respect you for it.
2 Please try as hard as you can to try to rid yourself of any fears you have about meeting the opposite sex and how you go about it.Fear is your biggest hinderance to the pathway of success.Fear of the unknown freezes you in one place.Fear of people you don't know yet keeps you from progress.In life there is risk in order to get reward.
3 Please open up your geographical distance requirement to at least 2 hours away or less.There are so many people out there that you haven't met because you wont travel beyond 20 minutes from your currently lonely perch.
4 Please don't choose a person because they have wealth and money.There are good people who have wealth and there are bad people who are wealthy.Money is not the sole reason for happiness it just allows you comfort and material things.
5 Be honest about who you are, never lie about your looks, your job, monetary status and education. Just tell the truth, if your not accepted for who you are the unaccepting person just isn't worth it.
6 Nice guys and girls finish last.Let me tell you nice is so pleasent, try it you might like someone who is nice.The pleasent life should be sought after.
7 Network with a vast amount of people in as many venues as possible.The more people you come in contact with the better your chances are to meet someone significant.
8 Falling in love is a formative process that unfolds over quality time together.This does not happen over night.You talk , meet, meet again, socialize, have fun, engage in fun dates, lock in on meaningful getting to know you dates, serious dates, intimacy forms then your steady and maybe your permanent.It takes work to love and be in a real relationship.
9 Please try to rid yourself of insecurity.Replace it with jovial confidence.Insecurity breeds rejection and cofidence is attractive and sexy.
10 Don't play mind games with the opposite sex it is cruel. It is difficult to interpret false signals and it is mean to play games.
11 Let people know you are available don't keep it a big secret.Your friends, family, coworkers and yes me your matchmaker will help you.
12 Celebrate yourself as a worthy single person worth knowing.Find an eloquent way to let people know your wonderful and worth being with.
13 Smile and flirt your way into the opposite sexes heart.Flirting is fun, smiling is warm and inviting.
14 Having unrealistic expectations will keep you single forever.I have met many singles who are unrealistic and remain single decades later. If you have been trying to meet the same type for 5 years or more and your unsuccessful I suggest you change the gae plan.
15 Work on your image, looks matter to some woman and most men, keeping in shape, dressing right and mastering the english language as well as communicating effectively will get you dates.
16 Understand the law of attraction in action.Please win the struggle with your mind about love as a possibility.Too many rules that are silly are not leading you to attraction. If you think positive that love can happen then someday it will.Shifting your consiousness is important.Focus on your affirmations.Make a decision to succeed.Focus on the outcome, move forward don't stagnate.Proactive thinking gives you ideas and goals get achieved.
17 Don't use the telephone as an interogation tool.Be pleasent spend a short time on the phone, don't put your potential date in a job interview. Go meet them in person.
18 Leave no stone unturned in finding your match is wise advice.Be relentless,sweet, charming, tenacious, proactive, toward finding the right person.
19 Develop relationship skills.Devotion to developing skills to be in a relationship will not be dissapointing to you.Identify redeemable qualities in the opposite sex.Understand the elements of who you are. Understand who you can and should be with. Look for values and beliefs, sex appeal, lifestyle compatibility, level of common interest, expression, personality typing, physical and emotional energy, patience, sociability, passion for life,style, conflict resolution, ambition
20 Please oh please understand that matching, dating, meeting people is a process and it takes a long time.There is no magic in this.It is work of the highest emotional magnitude.
Thank you for reading this I bet if your realistic your worthy of meeting people who understand it takes work and time to formulate the righgt relationship.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Sep 19, 2009 @ 12:22 PM
Did you ever wonder who joins this service? What kind of person hires a matchmaker.My clients come from all different walks of life.They are everyday mainstream americans. They are all levels of attaractive.Most important they are compassionate caring people who want to be in a relationship. Some of my clients are highly competent professionals in the midst of great careers and are doing very well financially.Many of my clients are very confident in who they are.Some of the woman here are very sweet.Many of my members are stylish and are presentable.I have people with good personal image.I bet you will find some of my members with a smile that will melt your heart.I have animal lovers for those that wish to be matched with people who love pets.I have athletic people who love playing sports.I have members into the arts and humanities. I have outdoor types, people into travel.I have very social people who are fun to meet. I have members here from 24-85 years in age.It doesn't matter what your age is here.I have suburban people, rural people and metropolitan people.I have skilled business people.Retired people are here too.I have a vast amount of educators including teachers, administrators and college professors. I have artists and designers.I have clerical people and people in the trades.I have the girl next door type, casual people and sophisticated people.I have very bright people.I have people of all different levels of intellect.
Most important I have a wide array of people from all socio economic backgrounds.These are people with high aspirations, friendly and sometimes highly selective.I also have people who are very accepting.These are people who want to make connections they have style and charm.They are everyday normal go to work people.Some are raising children some have never been married.I have widows and widowers.I have prctical people and I have idealistic dreamers.
So ladies and gentleman I just briefly wanted to give you an idea about who hires me. Southern new englands most realistic matchmaker.
John Holt
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Sep 18, 2009 @ 11:36 AM
Hi everyone, I like to think of myself as a matchmaker, social director , headhunter and sympathetic listener all rolled into one.Being a matchmaker is fun, you get to meet thousands of people.I am very social so I enjoy meeting people as people are interesting.I target positive upbeat realistic singles who love personalities and are not superficial.Attitude plays a role in who we meet.Whether you are upwardly mobile or just getting by it is more important to me what the soul of your existence on earth is.A purposeful individual with a great personality wins out in the long run.
Dating leading to realistic relationships is the goal.I want you to meet people not pick through the imperfections of everyone as if you were catalog shopping.
The matchmaker must collect information, however more important than that I must interpret the data correctly.Proper information collected and understood is key in analysis of matching.
I have chosen as a matchmaker through the networking singles radio show to be an educator and entertainer.I believe this is important to communicate with the general public and the members of tri-state dating service and remember you can stream the show at www.wnri.com 6-7 pm thursdays eastern standard time.I also blog here regularly to educate and inform you of what is important.
I always hope single people have substance and are not just cuddling up with a bank account instead of an intrinsic connection, so I look for people with intrinsic values.Intimacy must be attainable so I look for your capability to get close with people.Emotional wealth is more important to longevity than economic wealth.In life it comes down to what you are instead of what your worth.
My days are often filled with plain straight talk about your objective.These conversations sometimes are emotional for many as I am telling you things you don't want to hear or believe.I tell you this because it is my brand, realistic matchmaking.I believe the faster I get you to learn that the better off you will be.Getting straight talk about the singles scene is valuable.A matchmaker must deal with all seasonal issues such as lonliness at the holidays.I am highly sympathetic to singles alone at the holidays it isn't fun.I once matched a woman from new london C.T just after thanksgiving who was crying because her family was far away and she was alone and had no one for thanksgiving.I imediately matched her with 2 men who she met 1 once, no connection and then went out with the other for 3 months shortly after him I matched her with a man she has been with for 3 years now.A matchmaker must respond, however not to mismatch the selective.My days are filled with dealing with some unrealistic people who can't understand who they can be with, so I am a reality merchant.I end the fairytales for many and some don't like it.The alternative is to go onto an online site and live in a fantasy world that never is reality and is shallow and keeps you single and paying monthly fees to them.I am often educating singles to make a smart choice and that is using a matchmaker.I want to know you and what you think as I often feel a part of your life as your relationship broker.
I also understand that people must be free to choose, so I allow all my clients to approve who they meet by consultation.I discuss committment issues as they impact decisions on who to match you with.
I quite often strategize with you on how to relieve your frustration of being single.I am often an investigator who must know if you are safe to be with and you are who you say you are.
I am often nicknamed the traveling matchmaker as I travel in person to meet you all over C.T, M.A, R.I, N.Y AND V.T. I love to travel through many towns it is interesting.So yes I am a people person passionate about my career.
My days are sometimes filled up with dealing with love and little white lies you tell each other in rejection.Believe me I pick up the pieces for many singles with bruised psyche's and ego's.
Remember matchmakers have been around for centuries.Still I must spend 7 days a week getting you to trust my judgement.This is done with marketing and public relations and conversations with me. Trust is the central focus.Remember singles it is me marketing you to the opposite sex after you become my valued client.The truth is the only way to go. It is important to have me see you portray yourself as self actualized and not contrived so I spend time getting to know you.
I must spend days and nights figureing out what your chemistry is so I can make a judgement as to who you fit with and then there are the days when desperation takes over and I am in a frenzy to match you based on only one principle and that is customer service afterall you paid me.This sometimes makes this a circus tightrope act that I perform on the high wire.In the end mismatching the dating anxious does nothing for anyone.
I am also your advisor about dating issues and singles issues.I spend time talking to you sometimes it is so much fun and is very stimulating and other times it is challenging.
I also like any other business owner must network with the business community to find people for you and make connections that will value you.
Most importanly I am your compatibility meter.The one who get's to the bottom of who is right for you and that is a big responsibility.I must have patience as you do complain and I must resolve your issues.
The best part of some days I spend is at your wedding after it happened from meeting someone here.Isn't that great.I will tell you that to me it is worth more to see that than any money you paid me.
Yes through all the emotional stuff comes relationships, isn't that what it is all about.You bet it is.So this is me and what I do as a matchmaker.If you want embrace me and your realistic then what are you waiting for.Dealing with the fear of the unknown is tough but being alone in your fear is worse.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Wed, Sep 16, 2009 @ 09:29 AM
Sometimes there is no plausible explanation for why couples get together.I think that chemistry is somewhat mystified.There are some theories out there that dna has something to do with it, that subliminal scent is what turns you on to each other, and there is the anthropological viewpoint that brain chemistry is the reason.
Now without launching an elaborate think tank on figuring out how you connect I think that from meeting thousands of singles since 1992 there are some reasons you connect.
1 Instant chemistry, this where you lock into someone and everything flows right from the beggining.This magical moment some of you dreamed about.
2 Economic security.As much as I don't want to believe that is a reason for people to connect.Some people see a future with someone based on earning potential.
3 Romance, charm and aesthetic appeal. Many woman connect with a man skilled in those attributes.Sometimes not for the right motives.
4 Visual appeal, yes based on what you look like.This is what alot of men base it on.
5 Personality connection.This reason is my favorite.Nice is not bad believe me, try it.
So those are the 5 big ones, there are others.
Is there a science to matchmaking? I think some scientific theories have basis however how does anyone explain my matchmakers intuition.No one can and I have it. I have met people who ended up together just because I knew it.I just thought it was a match from meeting both of them.
I try to see who is a fit, my process has many parts to it.Much of what I do is dictated by the men and woman who join my service.The truth of connection is based on your desire and knowledge of who you are.
Here are some questions to ponder.
1 How do you feel about your dates presence?
2 How does your date deal with other people?
3 How do you formulate making decisions with your date, are you comfortable with that?
4 Does the person you date spend more or less than 50% of their time with you?
5 Do you share passion together?
6 Do you share difficult tasks?
7 A biggie! Comunication style.How do you connect through communication?
You need to get this stuff right or end up in failed relationships.If you get it wrong you will be in divorce court or at the very least floundering around in dating that goes no where fast.You wait long enough to meet the right person dont blow it.Ladies and gentleman believe me lawyers are expensive.In divorce you loose alot of money and spend alot of emotional capital.
If you created balance in your life along with reason, good judgement and are able to see things from other perspectives you might last and connect better. It's also the little things that build up to big problems if you dont learn about each other.
Let's now get back to matchmaking. There really are alot of viable people if you take the time to get to know them.Most of you dont do that.It is 1 hour and all decisions are made. This is foolish, you never can connect on any level in 1 hour.Dating is a meery go round that hopefully has a stopping point.The point where your in a relationship and not looking because you connected. So what am I telling you. This is a process a journey to blissful connection and it isn't easy although it isn't as hard as you think if you have insight.I love to deal with people with insight.
John Holt
Insightful Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Mon, Sep 14, 2009 @ 03:33 PM
Wow you must be thinking why is he talking about this?I travel all over C.T, M.A, R.I 3 sections of N.Y and V.T On the road and in my travels I observe behavior.I observe behavior in many ways. I currently see a trend of very nervous people on edge more than ever.Could the economic uncertainty have anything to do with this and is this behavior impedeing your progress in life and relationships.Most people these days are insecure about their future. In dating it is no different, lonliness breeds unsettling thoughts. Thoughts of what could be create high anxiety, high anxiety creates poor decisions. When you suffer from high anxiety your on a treadmill of desperation.In dating desperation is an indicator of bad decisions to come. Afterall you waited long enough haven't you. What will happen if you get rejected too many times? Depression can take over making you feel hopeless.
Hope is the cornerstone of my business, many place their hope at my doorstep.When it goes well euphoria takes place.When it goes one way well but bad for the other, false hope takes place. When frustration sets in it is time to look inward.Problem solving is the focus, sometimes changing your path is the way to regroup.Identify your problem and plan a strategy to deal with it.
Problems in life create pain, psychological pain.Delaying gratification for singles waiting to be in a relationship is like a time bomb going off.Many engage in ugly behavior, some of it directed at me, yes loveable me southern new englands most charming matchmaker.I understand this behavior however I dont find it healthy and I dont condone it. I am not responsible for the past sins of many which led many of you to high anxiety, depression and much worse.
Problem solving now keeps you from the psycholgists office later.Although therapy is not a bad place when the world gets out of control.I believe many of us are impatient with each other.The world is uncomfortable around us.Many people are not truthful with each other it causes pain. It takes time to solve problems.In dating psychology.A matchmaker must understand the behavior of singles searching for love and yes this means dealing with desperation. The first thing I must recognize in people are they any of the following.1, Normal everyday people who are just looking but are misguided. 2,People who are sabotaging themselves with a variety of defense mechanisms and passive aggressive behaviors.3 People with high anxiety over dating relationships.4, People who are trying to date with a clinical anxiety disorder and the effect of that on others.5, Persons with neurosis. 6 Psychotic people. Many of you are wondering how many fall into these categories.You all would be surprised.Did you know alot of people are on anti depressant medication these days, we all hope it helps. Did you also know that you the single person is largely responsible for who you are and how you interact.It is all your responsibility to know who you are and how you interact, furthermore it is no one elses fault how you act and how you get percieved.Responsibility for how you are makes you a good dating partner or not, breakdown of emotion will keep you single. If you suffer from neuroses and charecter disorders you will affect your own life and everyone you come in contact with.
If divorce was the result of your behavior and you think you escaped to freedom you are mistaken.The world you are now entering should have a ticket to self examination of your emotional well being.
In becoming the best candidate for matchmaking, dating, meeting people and relationship development you must dedicate yourself to reality. Delusions of anykind especially grandeur will be destructive.You must examine yourself in your previous relationships, do the work on yourself and try to change what you did wrong.
Openess to the challenge of emotional disturbance that causes toxic relationships is critical to healing. Withholding the truth to me the matchmaker and kidding yourself out of any responsibility will be destructive to the dating process. You must create balance with the opposite sex, emotional balance.If your maladjusted you will bounce from one person to the next.If you become depressed you will be unhealthy.
So does a rebirth need to take place? Matchmaking is dealing with changes in behavior and thought process daily.HMMMMMMMMM which way is the wind blowing today and many times I am in the bunker as the bombs are flying in my direction.I try to diffuse the behavior and sometimes wildcats can be tamed other times I must put the hard hat on and duck.
Let's be clear Anxiety and depression or occasional misbehavioral outbursts are the easier to deal with.Defined mental illness diagnosed is much harder.
If you embrace matchmaking you must define love and what it means. Yes I think it is safe to say you want to fall in love and be wonderful and nice, sweet feeling individuals.Is romance a myth? I doubt it and it has serious psychological ramifications.Your ego must be thrown out and your insight taking it's place.Their is no room for the narcissist in a healthy relationship.Do you think as a dependent.Co dependency is unhealthy. The capability of self sacrifice, honesty, caring, compassion is your salvation and where there is salvation there is love.
Here are the following healthy behaviors in dating and relationships.
1 Giving positive attention to your partner.
2 Allowing independence not controlling someone.
3 Sense of committment.
4 Discipline.
5 Creative mystery.
6 Playfullness.
7 Caring.
8 Intelligence.
Please try to be well, stop blaming everyone else in your life about your problems.Stop playing controlling destructive games.If you have symptoms of mental illness get help.Therapy and medication might work. Stop struggling to gain your level of maturity. Learning about you as a dating prospect takes courage it is seldom a brief process it is an ongoing evolutionary process. Is the process often filled with drama, yes it is.Dating has drama. The achievement of clarity is what you look for.Clarity is what I intend to reach with you.Please dont enter this process in denial.Confusion, high anxiety, depression, mental illness must be dealt with before you enter matchmaking, dating and relationship development.
Am I going to heal you, absolutely not.I am here to understand you, work with you and yes sometimes tell you what you dont want to hear so you can succeed.I hope you are well and not engaging in destructive behavior with each other. I hope your fearless and not fearful. I hope you are understanding the serious responsibility of knowing who you are.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Sep 13, 2009 @ 11:10 PM
Men and woman need companionship, so what do alot of men do this time of the year? They attend and watch football games.It would be to good to be true for men to have woman by their side while attending these games.This time of the year footballs fill the air all over the united states in stadiums that host high school, college and pro games.The air is filled with barbecue, laughter and fun at tailgate parties.I personally had played football for 9 years in college, high school and semi pro.Now I pursue the college and pro game.I have been on some very memorable road trips to stadiums where memorable games took place.I never went alone and many times it was with my significant other.I will never forget the road trip to the mac championship game at marshall university in west virginia. Marshall if you don't know the story had a tragic plane crash years ago and the team and coaches died in the crash.The football program was resurrected and rose to become a winning program.We went down there and saw them win the mac championship 2 years in a row.The town, hunington west virginia was so festive and I will never forget seeing the people thousands of them running through the streets with the torn down goal posts I will never forget sharing this with my significant other, each time we then went to charlotte north carolina to watch my pro team the rams play the panthers all on the same weekend in the middle of america in autumn.It was one big party. We were in florida one year on the way to key west and stopped in at the orange bowl to watch the miami hurricanes play south carolina.I have been a boston college fan for years going back to the doug flutie days, boy what a party that was when they played and beat alabama at foxboro.It was also a major social event.One year we went to west virginia to see boston college beat west virginia and then onto st.louis in an r.v both places know how to tailgate. You might think all that travel in a few days is crazy however the fun was worth it.There have been many local games and watching games on television with all shared memories.
Ladies you will meet lot's of men at football games and parties and yes they want you there.You would never be dissapointed in the fun atmosphere at stadiums and yes we are in the begining of that right now. Seeing it all in main street america is believeing it.I loved those shared trips to the heartland of america.
In the last analysis of togetherness, all that matters is fun, fun and more fun in life.Never let time run out on fun no matter what you do and do many things together, they create memories that last forever.You'll be glad you did those activities.Think of what you have to look forward to, so embrace it.Oh well I'm off to plan another road trip for this fall.
John Holt
Fun Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Sep 13, 2009 @ 09:06 AM
Does the single lifestyle fit like a glove or are you sitting on the sidelines watching relationships form.What about the divorce rate are you a statistic or do you fear you will be one.
Embracing who you are in the single scene is important, even though I am a matchmaker I would never tell anyone who is happy being single not to continue to be single.What do I want, happy people.Life is too short to be miserable.When you date you should be happy and fun to be with. Being single should be a lifestyle choice not a consequence.Being single is not a sentence at a correctional institution.
By the way many woman these days are opting to stay single into there late thirties.They utter the words proudly." I refuse to settle" Let's examine that.It would appear that many of you male types out there are not designed specifically with features that allow woman to commit to you.Where did this come from? Men have you continued to hear " sorry your not what I am looking for" There is a basis of unreasonable expectations that has infected the world of singles, maybe pop culture is to blame, after all we are not machines we are human with flaws.Every human has flaws. However as matchmaker I see that those ladies in there early forties come in a panic to me.They utter " Please find me a man who is successful who is 35-45 who is charming and wants to marry me so we can have children.This by the way must happen in the span of two years while they wasted there picky years in there thirties away. Yes this means matching, meeting, dating, courtship, marriage and conception all in two years time.Hmmmmmm am I a magician? I think not.I also don't have a machine that mass produces Mr. Wonderful either.
So if your one of those ladies who postponed reality then it is time to regroup.If you are one of those ladies that is thirty then maybe this causes you to think.Please think about this.It is and has been easy to attract men from 30-40 to join a dating service, these men are the number one marketing segment of dating service users.Perhaps there are many that would be compatible with you.Men if you are reading this, most woman are not looking like Paris Hilton these days.I will tell you this, many at tri-state dating service are in good shape and better than average looking.So what is the message here.If you are happy and single stay single, if you are miserable single then we need to work on that together.If you are a frustrated dater then we need a new strategy. If you are fun and happy in dating this is good. Please utilize my skills to help you navigate happiness.Yes it is important psychologically to be happy in life.
The real key to life is balance.If you are into one area heavily such as career and you are a social disaster and withdrawn then you are off balance.I think we can have a centered conversation about lifestyle together.Maybe the strategy focus is best for your future, the one that chooses a different pathway.
If you are divorced please understand that you should know what happened then regroup and dont be afraid to move on.Leave behind the past, no matter how toxic it was. Your life should not be a crisis, complaining about the past will not endear you to the future.Let's look at the fun future for you.I bet you can end up in a great relationship.By the way everyone let's not let fear guide us.Suited to your purpose might be a counterpart in your relationship that is fabulous.
A relationship can be the heart and soul of happiness.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Sep 12, 2009 @ 08:15 AM
I know, dating style, wow what is John going to say about this.If your outgoing and your new friend is reserved or you like to do many different things then he does it might be a matter of style.So how do you start to see eye to eye, afterall your still attracted to each other.
Let's start with relationship motive.If you want to just date and your new friend wants to get serious then you have style issues.A contrast in goals will bring conflict.If you seek to isolate yourself from your friend then you will be viewed as isolating for the purpose of controlling them, however it could just mean your only moving slow.It is definately a good thing to move slow, providing your really interested. I reccomend sending clear and consistent signals to those you date and always keep your sense of humor.Sometimes sense of humor dictates fun and success.
Now what about the art of compromise in dating style, it is essential in that you should never expect to get your own way all the time.Having a style of reaching common ground and being able to give up something in order to get something keeps you flexible and engaged in the dating process.Sometimes contrasting styles work insync with one another other times they dont.
When your style detirmines how to see eye to eye then you will work well towards the excitement, sometimes spontaneity in a relationship can breed excitement, never forget men and woman should excite one another.In the dating relationship one should be the planner.The planner should be romance oriented if the mood is prevalent.Styles then become methodical vs. spontaneous.Ask yourself which style are you.Remember style is important in formulating who you will date successfully.
Here are some useful styles, maybe you can identify yourself.
1 functional
2 exciting
3 practical
4 spontaneous
5 adventurous
6 adaptable
7 agreeable
8 versatile
9 romantic
10 humorous
There are many more, remember you should be a perfect compliment to each other in order to succeed.Equally suitable for magnetism as well as connection.The ideal companion for each other.A relationship created especially for your heart.Both of you should achieve your style and merge your lives effectively.
John Holt
matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Sep 11, 2009 @ 10:57 AM
Hi friends, yes this is true and they are not over the hill either.I met one in c.t the other day and she is a gem.Men get over the idea that A, you will date some young great looking woman, for most of you those days are over, now after you get over the shock of my last statement I can show you ladies from 50 and up that are reasonably attractive and are fun to be with.There personalities are incomparable to others and they kept themselves in reasonable shape.The woman I met the other day has it going on.She is tall, slender with long dark hair and I bet you would have trouble keeping up with her.I would hope you would try.
So given the fact that I have members all the way up to 85 isn't this a friendly place for people past 50 to date. Ultimately if you can overcome stereotypes then you can have many surprises in meeting men and woman in your own age bracket and grow to like them just fine.I ran a dinner party recently where people from 47-62 attended, we now have 4 matches from that group.If you have searched far and wide for the right person past 50 here is the place to find them. The time is now and has never been better for you guys past 50.Just throw away the stereo types because these woman will surprise you.So my friends past 50 it's up to you.I think dating people in your own age bracket produces great quality time, chasing younger people too young for you produces frustration and embarrassment which leads to bitterness and depression, so you make the choice.
John Holt
Matchmaker for all age groups!
Posted by John Holt on Thu, Sep 10, 2009 @ 08:18 AM
Tri-state dating service has a unique brand.The brand is realistic matchmaking.Anyone who is a true believer of attaining a relationship from being realistic about who you can date is who a tri-state member is.Identity with the mission is to realize who you are and who you can be with.If you have a cognitive connection or an emotional connection with this brand called realistic matchmaking then tri-state is where you belong. Why do you belong here? Because John Holt professional matchmaker has the distinctive skill to relate to the truth and match you.When you achieve self awareness you will unlock the door to your future.
I ask , do you have a concern about being in a healthy relationship? Then it is time to test my virtues in matchmaking.Your personal engagement is about to begin once you leave the fairytale world of online dating websites or other companies that sell the dream to you, knowing that you will fail.The dream as warped as it can be in many cases is what keeps you from the reality.Results in dating are born out of complete awareness.The awareness breaks down into 2 areas.
1 Self awareness.This is knowing who you are.
2 Awareness of the dating landscape.This where you know who the people are, who they want and where you fit in.
Tri-state dating service has positioned the organization to serving the cause of realistic matchmaking in C.T, M.A, R.I ,N.Y, and V.T an area that can produce excellent singles for meeting one another.
If the idea of feeling great in a realistic relationship is appealing then join the movement. The key is to embrace and engage in reality based matchmaking.I will support you every step of the way in the process.Make no mistake about this, it is a process, a journey. The companies that tell you it is a quick fix are selling you snake oil.Unlike those companies tri-state dating service works on the truth.My relationship with you is based totally on embracing reality.The conventional wisdom in dating is to embrace reality.Remember reality vs. fairytales.Reality get's results, fairytales keeps you dreaming.While you are dreaming you spend more and more of your money.When you spend and keep spending for no results then you become jaded, bitter, frustrated and hopeless.In embracing realistic matchmaking you get a fresh approach, your awakened to a process of reality. The very idea of awakening to the reality of who you can be with instead of dreaming about who you will never be with.
Does this appear to be counterintuitive? I must be the transgressor of all time.I understand you and everyone in the dating landscape. My knowledge is valuable.The people at tri-state dating service are valuable. It is this business relationship which becomes personal in guidance that you benefit from.I benefit from knowing your on the right path towards the mission, the goal. I revel in the idea the drudgery is over for many of you who are tired of dating your computer mouse. So if you have become inspired then please get in touch with me.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Sep 06, 2009 @ 09:49 AM
Guess what, people lie to enhance themselves, they lie to reject one another and many think it is just fine to do it.Why do people do this, many claim they don't want to hurt anyone.The fact is you hurt more when you lie as most people figure it out.
Telling little white lies is just fine, afterall you spared his/her feelings didn't you.The paragon of virtue you must be as you spared poor Johnny or sally from truthful feedback.When men/ woman don't measure up to qualifications you must tell them something.I often tell singles that usually whatever they hear , they can count on one thing only, that it wasn't the reason given.Ladies/ gentleman you like setting soft landings up with that sigh of relief.The relief that comes from nicely getting rid of someone.That someone may never learn anything from this, but noble you has spared them from the truth.I ask, should there be evaluation that helps someone? Just as long as your nice about it.
Now haven't you run into deceptive profiles in online dating sites, pictures from 15 years ago, woman lieng about weight, men lieng about height, men lieng about education, woman lieing about age.Why does this go on? Because we all know what attracts each other and guess what, you guessed it most people are not everything we all want.What a surprise this must be.Do you know that 40% of all online daters are fraudelent. Social status, career mobility, glamour, cute looks, thin is in, tall is more desireable than short,money, youthfulness yes everyone past 50 is young for their age and according to them no one else past 50 is young like them.Education is big with some.I say deception leads you nowhere good.Deception must be perpetuated by more deception. Consultation with me brings everything to light. Online dating websites are breeding grounds for deception, avoidance of reality.Let's face up to reality! Being percieved as attractive to someone and actually being attractive to someone are two very different things my friends.I as a matchmaker want to connect you with those that truly find you attractive for the real you.Don't be afraid to embrace the real you.
Accept the challenge. Here is how you do that.First take up the idea that your worth it the way you are. Once you establish confidence in who you are let those your attracted to know about it.The other way to do it is to make changes in yourself to make you more attractive to the opposite sex. Identify the strategy.I hope I challenged you to leave the phony candy store called online dating and to embrace the reality of you and the opposite sex with realistic matchmaking.The brand of tri-state dating service is realistic matchmaking.
John Holt
Realistic Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Sep 05, 2009 @ 02:15 PM
It's labor day weekend already.Wow time flies by.I thought the subject of love contracts in the workplace would be a good subject.
When you work in an office where 2 people are in love related relations you should plan for the potential falling out that might take place.Office romances don't usually go the way of happily ever after.
In many situations going toally sour from lovey dovey is the order of business while all the gossip surrounds you, oh yes and management is ready to pounce.Why create the stress, control yourself.Even sexual harrassment law suits are born in office romances.Do you know if you are an employer you might get sued by your employees who feel slighted in favor of the office lovebirds.
Some companies ask workers to sign love contracts to protect themselves from suits.These contracts define the rules of engagement that workers engage in.The reasons for this is when people break up they talk negatively and polarize workers into a his and her's camp.Well just marvelous isn't it. Why not just hire me to find the love of your life and work is, well just what it was meant to be, work.The worse of these romances is when supervisors date subordinates.
Some of you might think I am biased however I learned the hard way 27 years ago when I dated a co worker.I realized she had an alchohol problem and broke up with her, she made my life miserable at work.The behavior was unprofessional.She engaged in outbursts and even slammed doors in my face.
I think all employers should have rules of some kind, even love contracts as a protection.These romances affect job performance.Do you need to use your co workers as a dating pool? This matchmaker thinks not.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Sep 04, 2009 @ 09:52 AM
Hi Everyone, running a dating agency these days is full of analysis.I find myself as a matchmaker examining many facets of what attracts men and woman to each other.
Men are woman too picky these days? Woman are men too superficial, too visual ? I look for substance in people. Being overly selective plays you right out of the ball game. I ask why are people overly selective? I come up with the fact that no one wants to fail in a relationship.What happens then is overly picky behavior.Life is a risk, take the risk! While you take the risk, go slow and learn alot about each other.Their are infinite possibilities in this world, after all there are now 51% of you single.The single woman is more of that percentage than single men. Remember this ladies.Picky will get you no where fast.
By the way guys, you need to start talking to all these single woman.The goal is to get past the point where you are a stranger to her.I was winding my way across connecticut meeting new prospects the other day and thinking as I left them how much potential there is at tri-state dating service. These people are all great people to meet. Unlock your potential with me.Think that it's time for you to be a couple with someone.I do, then again I am always making singles into couples.
This labor day weekend and beyond you can call me 800-252-6210 and we can discuss the possibilities. I want to know if your ideal woman or man is here for you, perhaps your the ideal man or woman for someone. The days go by quick.The time is now.
Let's talk about you. I love people with a good sense of humor and a positive proactive lifestyle.Maybe we can define what a truly successful relationship is for you.Discovery of your hidden talents is foremost on my mind.It is time to define the dating conversation.What are your goals? Do you operate by a certain set of rules?Do you think being single in new england and new york is something to put in your past.Would your life go from stressing out about dating to being the success in dating you were meant to be.I am so inspirational.I am a catalyst for you.
The benefits of meeting with my mind today and in the next week is, well just imagine going hand in hand into autumns bright colors in the prime stages of a romance.Being together for the holidays in 11 weeks from now is much better than the family asking, Why are you still alone, you have alot offer? I know you hate that question. Invest yourself with me.Tell me about your personality, tell me your worth it to someone. How far will you take yourself to meet your soulmate your new friend that great guy or gal. Dating is fun, being a member of my dating agency is productive.Single woman and men embrace my process.
John Holt
Matchmaker