Posted by John Holt on Sun, Jun 28, 2009 @ 09:44 PM
Hi guys, One sure way to have fun and attract woman is to go dancing, or dance with single woman at weddings or social functions. I was at my cousins wedding today and danced alot.I could clearly see everyone enjoying themselves.Especially the woman who were in great spirits. I hope this is a hint! Afterall I just want all of you together, dont I? If you have not heard me on the radio then you are'nt aware of the fact that I really believe in putting fun into dating.I emphasize fun!
I think we effectuate a lighter side of ourselves when we have fun.Remember the proper social pathway is involving fun in your dating life. The impact that derives from fun is positive and that leads to future dates.Isn't that what we want men.
The man should embrace fun activities such as dancing to endear himself to woman. Interfacing socially with woman builds your standing in their eyes.
So become a dancing machine and attract woman.
Just another fun blog from your fun matchmaker.
John Holt
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Jun 26, 2009 @ 04:24 PM
Hi I just wanted to tell everyone that summer romance season is here, so wake up everyone.I know the weather hasn't been great.Don't let the weather dull your senses.I highly recomend that now is the time for summer romance to bloom.
If you find someone special to build a relationship with now, the holidays will come and go with no worries of being alone.Let me extend my invitation to all of you to be proactive and enjoy your summer with potential relationship partners.
You're the kind of person who just might benefit from a matchmaker who has a large pool of candidates.I will help you chart your course.Being with someone at a barbeque, outdoor concert, beach, hike in the woods, 4th of july fireworks, providence waterfires, fishing, playing outdoor sports, mystic seaport, newport shops, old cape cod, ice cream stands, seafood resteraunts serving lobsters, city or country settings, beautiful rides in the green mountains of v.t or sitting by the fire on a summer evening and just loving who your with.
Maybe this summer is uncommon for you, today you set a goal to meet someone and enjoy your life.Maybe your 2 special people waiting for fate, well I move fate along for you.Tell me is summer better alone?
I think summer is best spent with someone special.If you are of the feeling this is an idea of distinction and you appreciate people, then call me. I am here.Tri-state dating service will be 17 years in business on july 1st.If you have discerning taste help me move into year 18 I will help you find signifigance.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Thu, Jun 25, 2009 @ 08:41 AM
While pledging to work harder than ever for my clients a realization process must take place.A matchmaker must deal with reality.Sometimes reality in the dating world is painful emotionally.
Ladies cinderella was the only one who recieved the glass slipper, so what happened to all the other fair maidens? Prince charming only picked one woman, what happened to the rest? If you are a lady who wonders why the image of a man inside your mind is not becoming reality it is time to examine life from a realistic adjustment.I realize many of you were told that prince charming in one form or another was coming.I say if you are now well into the single years, either single never married, divorced for 5 years or longer, widowed for 5 years or longer then a reality check must take place. I know you wont settle. I hear it all the time, so being alone is a great alternative. My total committment you includes realistic matchmaking and advice.
Fractured fairytales was a funny cartoon that was on the air years ago.I use the term because it seems appropriate to send my message here.
Ladies I realize charm and charisma is attractive, barely 15% of all men posess it.Out of the 15% only 5% use it in a truthful manner.The other 10% use it to get from you what they want, usually sex and helping themselves to your money.
Education of the highest degrees, does this really make men more attractive? The fact is that the higher you go the more complicated he is and the less of them their are.
Tall Dark and handsome men.Many of you want them.The taller they are the less of them in the dating pool. A good man can never be measured by his height but by his heart and mind.His committment, maybe totally to you.That isn't measured in tall dark and handsome.
Super athletic skills, many men are athletic to a certain degree.However a body builder, marathon runner, triathalete or superior team sport player that comprises less than 10% of all men.
Could your level of dedication be leaning toward the rich and famous.They make up 5% of all men.
So you see fractured fairy tales exist in the minds of many, truth and reality is my is part of my distinctive style as a matchmaker, sometimes it is hard to face reality.Can I help you, because if I help you then you might be happier in the long run.By the way this week tri-state dating has 2 engagements announced.
I believe in becoming your mentor, your matchmaker and the beacon of reality in your life, why because you will be happier living in the truth and reality base, not chasing a fractured fairytale.
John Holt
Realistic Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Tue, Jun 23, 2009 @ 05:18 PM
Dating for the intrinsic value promotes a deeper level of connected satisfaction than superficial selection.Let's face it if window shopping is what it is all about, then what else keeps it going? Can you ask yourself what shallow vs. deep is.The attempt to connect at all conscious levels will derive a much deeper satisfaction in interpersonal interaction, activities of common interest, meaningful discussion, sexual intimacy, quality time spent engaging in meaninful connection not catalog shopping for the charm on the arm or the personal trinket.Afterall we are people with a whole lot more than looks.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Jun 19, 2009 @ 03:23 PM
Tri-State Dating Service was founded on the principles of realistic matchmaking.You'll have to experience my style, it is real and straightforward.I am also inspirational to those who accept the reality of their situation.
Please never doubt my experience in affairs of the heart, personal attraction, compatibility, lifestyle issues, personal preference.I can't wait to change your dating life.I intend on changing it for the better.
If you have any doubt that the transformation of the dating world is ever changing with great challenges then talk to me. Put your strategy to the test, let me inspire you to make it work.
Tri-state dating service is a melting pot of proactive people who chose to allow me to find people for them.I inspire people to move in a direction, sometimes I provide feedback that can help change the course for the better.
The principles of social interaction feed positive experiences if you handle it right.Make no mistake about it after you leave technology you are face to face with raw socialization, if you have what it takes you will be in a relationship, after all it is you and the opposite sex in person, live and full of interaction.You can't hide behind the cell phone, text messages, computers and the like.It is you and the oposite sex.The time is right to become inspired so you can handle interaction.Personal interaction will never be extinct and it is the very reason why matchmakers will always guide the single person.Step into the foundation of this business which is to relieve you from the chase and move you to the relationship.
If you accept that my creed is smart, imaginative reality based service then the ship is sailing all over c.t m.a r.i n.y and v.t Can I capture your spirit, your zest for a relationship and desire to really get there? If your values tell you it is time to be linked with like minded people with similiar sets of values then your time is now.
The cause is clear at tri-state dating service. It has been conveyed in my message today.Should you become inspired for realistic, proactive matchmaking please contact me 800-252-6210
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Jun 19, 2009 @ 01:04 PM
This could be your moment, you know the one where the lady said. I find you interesting can we see each other again. How did you get there? Below are reasons why woman are attracted to men , take stock in this and call me at tri state 800-252-6210 to begin meeting them.
1 The best way to a first impression is to dress neatly and in style.
2 A sensuos voice goes a long way.
3 When speaking to her, do it with positive confidence.
4 Make her the center of your attention.
5 Dont hesitate to compliment her for the things you like in her, just don't overdue it.
6 Show interest, then don't procrastinate.
7 Leave a little mystery about yourself, they get curious, give her a reason to see you again.
8 Honesty and sincerity, a must if you want a long term relationship.
9 Most of all, follow through with everything you say you will do.
I think this is a basic idea of how to attract real woman.
john Holt
The Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Thu, Jun 18, 2009 @ 01:03 PM
A touchy subject these days is how close to home can I meet someone nice.Since I cover 3 states and parts of 2 others this can be an issue.With the gas prices climbing and threatening some consumers wallets they choose to reduce the territory of where they will meet people from.This is a shame because there should be no price on true love, that dynamic relationship.
One day in the 1990s I met a man from gardner mass. After interviewing him I told him my intuition tells me that I have someone for you.I was totally confident, she lived in medford mass and was a fine match for him.They both were from the same religion, she could relocate, she had that personal appeal with a smile, he had charm.I just visualized them together. They liked all the same things, both were nice compatible people.He turned me down it was too far away.I called him every saturday, why saturday because if your single and alone on saturday it might be easier for me to convince him.On the 4 th saturday he agreed. Moe and michelle were married 18 months later. They fit like a glove.
Some people dont get it, love has no price tag, when you meet and chemistry is present it wont matter how far you go to meet, you will work it out. Dont be foolish when the matchmaker has strong feelings, go for it, put your single days behind you.The love you've been looking for might be 2-3 hours away so for a little inconvienience you be in the relationship you so richly deserve.Compatibility knows no distance.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Tue, Jun 16, 2009 @ 09:06 PM
Hi guys did you ever wonder where the good woman are these days.Let me tell you all about the kind of woman here at tri state.
These woman are down to earth, many of them in good shape athletically.Great conversationalists.These woman are in there 20s 30s 40s 50s 60s and 70s I have woman that are down to earth work everyday woman that are just plain nice.Practical types, on the other hand I have young woman in there 20s who are very attractive looking for men who can be in a meaningful relationship, are you a man that can commit to a woman? There are a multitude of fun woman in their 50s who have great personalities and are attractive. Do you like professional woman and can you keep up with them well there are many like that. I have versatile, well spoken, sweet, intelligent woman here at tri state, perhaps just right for you.These woman are all over c.t mass, r.i n.y and v.t The perfect compliment to a variety of men from 30s-70s.Equally suitable for long lasting relationships.This dating service is made for men who are serious about relationships, realistic about who they want to meet. The ideal woman awaits you here at tri state. I have professional woman, blue collar woman, woman from every education level, most important to men is that these woman are nice people who are attractive relationship candidates with all kinds of interests.
John Holt
matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Jun 12, 2009 @ 04:21 PM
Keeping proper perspective in todays dating world is difficult. Meeting those that stand out as incomparable can be a task. Sometimes for single people a grueling process. The numbers game sometimes works in other cases is disasterous. My advice to anyone who reads this is to try to be lighthearted with fun pursuits in mind.When you show yourself as fun to be with then the next invite is around the corner. It is paramount that you be fun and positive. Keeping proper perspective throughout the lengthy process is important.It also helps to have realistic expectations.
I ask you to think what is important to you so you can recognize who fits those charecteristics.Setting the standards for who you want should be moderate and inviting, not picky or stringent.Compile a list then follow it when choosing who you will date, remember no one is perfect. Never try to outclass anyone while still proceeding to have fun.
John Holt your personal matchmaker has created a list here of the 10 most important things to consider in choosing someone.
1 Personal appeal.
2 Honesty.
3 Overall ability to communicate openly.
4 Nice disposition.
5 optomism.
6 Neat appearance.
7 Sensual magnetism.
8 Personal respect.
9 Sincerity of intentions.
10 Creative Imagination
Many will say it is looks.I say that might be a door opener, however the other items on my list will keep you there.
Keeping your perspective clear on the subject of dating is major.If you wish to excel follow my list. Do not make excuses and blame anyone else for your lack of success.It is to easy to point the finger elsewhere.We should accept who we are and who we can be with. Self improvement through personal growth will help.Avoiding hopelessness is key.The pursuit of a good relationship should be fun , less intense. Always remain committed to the idea that the right person will be coming sooner or later, avoid the negativity trap. It only takes one out of many then the long overdue relationship begins.
There are many opportunities, some satisfying, some dissapointing, just keep utilizing opportunity.Just when you think it can't happen it just might.By the way if your time is now and you are upbeat, proactive type, then I want you at tri-state.Isn't it time for you to formulate your pathway to a relationship? There is no time like the present.
john holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Wed, Jun 10, 2009 @ 09:23 AM
Wow what a subject to dive into this morning. Quite often I hear the general singles population sigh with statements such as" I wish people would stop playing games" " cant anyone just be honest" Well your matchmaker of 17 years is here to tell you that rejection, yes rejection that fatal word in dating is what you fear.If you have already experienced the I will call you or you never get the email back from the dating site contact then guess what? This is rejection.Here is the good news, rejection is never 100% just keep moving on until you find the one who wont reject you.
Here are some types to avoid on your journey.
1 Ladies stay away from mr. ambivalent.He will drive you crazy as you try to figure him out, while all the while you will get frustrated waiting for him to make decisions.
2 Ladies and gentleman avoid the casual dater or in other terms a player.For them it is all about fun and games and no committment.
3 Ladies stay away from mr. too fast to soon he loves you for 3 weeks then it fizzles out because lets face it, dont confuse enfatuation with true love, how you recognize him is that he showers you with compliments that even you think you dont deserve.
4 The man or woman who must see pictures of you as a consideration to meet you.Shame , shame on catalog shoppers.Stop and think, does a picture tell you anything about that person.Looks are shallow.
5 Men stay far away from picky high maintenance woman, they will turn you into a circus performer.The man who performs for her will need to continue upgrading the act in order to stay with her as she makes you jump through hoops all day long.
6 Ladies Mr. Pity party is a sign of a weak man.Weak men cannot be depended on.
These are just some examples.When singles reference being tired of games with some of the personalities listed above, they need a strategy to deal with it.The proper way is to effectively establish who you are with by having fun, telling the truth to one another.There is a normal pathway to success that is simply be a truthful friend, smile, laugh and flirt.Enjoy each other without controlling each other and please no ulterior motives or manipulative agendas, then guess what the games come to an end.If you are ever looking for a matchmaker with strength who can help you call me 800-252-6210 7 days a week 8 am -10 pm.I enjoy helping people get through single days.
john holt
matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Mon, Jun 08, 2009 @ 03:45 PM
This subject is all about major factors that point to committment.Testing the waters are you? Could you be seriously looking for a meaningful relationship? It is time to think about the challenge I make to you as the single person.Locating the right person for the right relationship.
Capability to success in the proper pathway is the key. Enhancing who you are, knowing exactly who is your intimate self will begin an eye opening experience.
Too many single people wander aimlessly through the maze.The maze get's too expensive. Step back, go into deep thought and pursue your partner in intimacy, the one you desire.It is time for you! Do you really know what you want in life from the opposite sex.I think it is all about fun, thrills, committment, loyalty, eye contact, smiling faces, powerful attraction that makes you feel motivated.Personal enhancements, having personality.
What kind of person meshes well with you, study yourself and learn who it is.Can you leave your past relationships behind you?
Here is the key to this process.
1 develop your self image, the kind that will leave a charsmatic impression on the opposite sex.
2 I dentify your charecter flaws and work on changing them.
3 Remain upbeat, friendly and positive.
4 projecting your image as positive , confident and upbeat.
Try this it works.
John Holt
Southern New englands most charming matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Jun 06, 2009 @ 09:37 AM
A great way to meet single compatible people and have fun, is the social dinner party. Going to dinner with an equal amount of males to females in groups no smaller than six is just plain fun.The best part is that you get to evaluate potential matches while social interaction takes place, fun, laughter and some serious conversation about you, the others and dating in general, a chance to network at the very least.
Converting a dinner social opportunity to a future date is possible through lite dinner conversation and flirting, yes flirting, it actually works. You will want to enhance yourself at one of these events by smiling and having confidence coupled with being friendly and inviting, as I sit here today 2 dinner parties will take place this weekend and many others are being planned. Call me 800-252-6210 and find out about social dinner parties.
john Holt
Your professional matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Jun 05, 2009 @ 04:49 PM
Hi This is very critical in becoming successful in the dating world.Knowing who you are, realistic expectations placed in your mind about who you can attract will save you time and cut down on rejection.After all no one wants to experience rejection.
Rejection does hurt however everyone experiences it.My job as a matchmaker is to help you understand an easier dating pathway, one that leads to success.You can turn to me with confidence in understanding a directional pathway toward success.No matter how long you have searched, a dating pathway strategy can help you move in the right direction. Success is the right path you choose.
John Holt
matchmaker