Posted by John Holt on Tue, Mar 09, 2010 @ 04:57 PM
WOW I heard the financial news that consumers are spending again.At tri-state dating service they never stopped, you know why? Because of value, everyone knows a value purchase when they see one, every once in a while I run into some person who doesn't get it. Meeting the requirements of todays demanding singles is very difficult, this is why I am trying to change the culture of thinking. I branded this business realistic matchmaking, going out with Mr./ Ms. 80% will save you years of frustration. I see many of you in a frustrated state so why change the culture? Because many of you could remain alone, isolated and frustrated the rest of your life.
The tri-state dating service rally is now 15 months and running. The evaluation of this is mainly due to the following.
1 Affinity marketing from networking contacts.
2 Publicity, go to my media page on this site and see two stories about me that built alot of trust.
3 Networking singles radio show.
4 Attitude, when you call me you get upbeat interaction and realistic strategy.
5 Honesty in assessment of your situation.
6 Tireless promotion of this business and the branding mission , realistic matchmaking.
Folks if you need to grasp it and convert to it call me 800-252-6210 for a dose of reality. The design of my movement and the delivery of services combines a business model that breathes truth in a industry that runs away from it. I take this truth to meet you in person at a reasonable price. Everything that happens is personal so lay it on the line, many are doing that right now.My dedication is to provide you with realism then send you out with who you can succeed not a dream that escapes you regularly. I am converting the superficial into the realistic, looks are nice, they serve no purpose in a relationship.
Where is tri-state booming in this rally.
1 Northern R.I
2 Providence R.I
3 Kent county R.I
4 New london county C.T
5 Middlesex county C.T
6 Fairfield county C.T
7 Central C.T
8 Westchester county N.Y
9 Blackstone Valley M.A
10 Seekonk M.A
Who is growing this business in patronage.
1 Health care proffesionals from 35-68
2 Teachers from 25-60
3 Working class men and woman 45-60
4 Men and woman with phd,s and masters degrees from 42- 63
5 Urban city dwellers from 36- 63
6 Health concious men and woman from 32-70 who excercise and live clean lives they are the fastest growing segment of the population here at tri-state
7 Small business owners from 38- 56
8 Yonger woman from 30-35 especially in R.I
9 Cultural woman from 45-65
10 Large numbers of men and woman from 25-60 who got tired of dating there computer mouses, living in fear of deceit with online dating.They left online dating in large numbers.
This is fueling the rally, conversion of more and more people who get it.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Mon, Mar 08, 2010 @ 10:15 PM
Tri-state dating service under seige, matchmaker holt has his helmet on and is in the bunker. My god rejection is everywhere around him and desperate singles are after a match as if they were dogs fighting over their last piece of meet. The voice of reason rises above the rubble of dating anxiety destruction and bellows JUST BE HAPPY! CONTROL YOURSELF, GET A GRIP. Yes get a hold of who you are. Hold your position in life in tact, stay cool. In dating you can't be desperate or desperately seeking someone as your out of control. If your lonely the cure is to open up and just be with someone but not out of desperation my fine feathered friends, no not at all, you must be cool.Collect yourself.
Seriously 30% of my members are uncontrollable and what they get is the best available in order to preserve the sanctity of customer service, so the seige marches forward and the volley is fired, in the end I hold the fort down and get you foccussed. I still cater to your needs, however I deliver you from sabotage. I get you out of frustration carrying you kicking and screaming into the den of reality known as , yes you guessed it , realistic matchmaking. Prompt service is for people with wide parameters not being sucked into brainless chasing of those that will never go out with you. I hold up the mirror to your soul and show you the way from frustration, yes me the one who made 400 matches in one week yes me the one who tells it just like it is. I am guiding you and I just can't wait for your soul to be realistic and delight in the end of frustration forever.
It is feedback of the highest order, not for the weak not for the anxious not at all, damned be the narcissist who revels in superficiality and desperate for hollywood glamour images damn them, send them to counseling to straighten it out. Your desperation gets imediate attention only to match you with best available only, not exact and in many cases not close not at all other than placation until you become desperate again and push me to the wall but you end going toe to toe with the realistic matchmaker and I will prevail.
My goal for you is to get you feeling good about who you are not desperate and half crazed. To serve you best is to instill the hard truth and eliminate your frustration not to have ambiguos matches of placation but to have matches of timeless meaning. Let me plan and manage your matches not react to desperation. Let me conduct this symphony instead of anarchy with no direction. You can turn to me with confidence, I will build you up after tearing you down from desperate anxiety. I will rise from the rubble and conquer desperation and then you will be admired by someone who really wants you for who you are.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Mar 07, 2010 @ 08:30 PM
I hope so! Does it seem these days that there is alot of stress, you bet.This country is wound tighter than a top. Reaching any potential comes with frustration.It doesn't have to be like this. Approaching everyday with supreme optomism is taking the high road, there is infinite possibilities if you just steer your way through the negativity around you, while still embracing reality.
In the dating game it is imperative in the year 2010 that you focus on meeting as many people regardless of the minutia that you use to screen them out, if you become solidly optomistic then happy days are ahead, even if you don't permanently end up with them.Why because your outlook is brighter, your mood is better.Now when I say happy days I dont mean dating the fonz, Richie, Ralph or potsie. However the simplicity, less complication and fun of that era is appealing.
Reaching your full potential is based this year on contacts, bright disposition and less competing criteria. Yes the road to success is taking a right on happy street.On happy street there are happy days ahead where you unlock your potential to be cheerful and wonderful to be around.Removing the mental blocks that hold you back day to day helps you become free to meet more people because your not stuck up anymore, your not a nay sayer and unpleasent, your literally having more happy days as you smile, wink, flirt and become cheerful. Success can be yours because your in a better mood, happy days are here because your going on dates instead of sabotaging them. You wake up and there is happiness inside you. Happiness turns your life around from misery. Happiness turns your life around. Invest yourself in happiness.Just have a gorgeous day.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Fri, Mar 05, 2010 @ 03:43 PM
Hi everybody , I thought alot recently about what this world is becoming.If you have not heard from your friends in years go on facebook they show up in 5 minutes, yet they couldn't call you in the last ten years even when they knew your number.Then you go out to twitter and tweet, is this mindless or am I just crazy? Let's face it who cares about the cup of coffee you had this morning. By the way who cares about most things I do. You can link in with Bill who linked with Sally who linked with Tom who linked with Fred who linked with George who linked with Amanda, you get where I am going.The real deal is when you meet people in person without this computer.I function best in person live when I meet you.In dating tweeting get's you no where.This stuff is for communication purposes of a small order. In person is where it all happens live and in color, the internet has created a generation of inept people who can't talk to one another, even I spend more time on it than I want to. What positive outcome can be achieved with all this mindless tweeting and linking and creating a shrine to yourself on facebook. Expanding your horizon in person in the flesh takes courage. It also takes social skills.By the way in dating it only happens when your in person, not looking at pictures hoping George clooney or Angelina Jolie is going to appear.
Another thing to consider is that on these social networking sites potential employers are looking you up to see what your doing, you could lose a job opportunity because of what your doing.Living confidentially is a thing of the past with your digital footprint on the internet, tells people everywhere you have been.There is no more privacy. The internet is a great place to research evey subject there is or to look up facts on certain subject matter, it is the wild wild west of lunacy when it comes to meeting people or associating with them, even I can't believe that you must have a website in order to do business when let's face it what I do has nothing to do with a website.I match people that I meet in person who joined my service from finding out about me through advertising, public stories and e mail advertising, then there are others who come here to be entertained. I never met anyone who tweets in my life in person and none of them became customers however those that were directed here became members.I believe that tweeters and face book shrine organizers and linked up people are too busy for a real life.If your tweeting mindlessly all day long you have no time for anything else do you?
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Wed, Mar 03, 2010 @ 08:19 PM
I thought I would share encouragement with all of you.
1 Start thinking about alternatives to those that reject you, examine a new beggining, maybe it will turn the corner for you.
2 Start showing a bright side to your personality, you might be someones refreshing sunshine.
3 Start participating in group activities that are fun for you, the next person you meet there could be the one for you.
4 Find a subtle way to showcase talents you have.You will get noticed.
5 Look for people with values and charecter, these are the solid people you can count on.
6 If he or she looks good, flirt with them you might strike up a match.Besides it is fun to flirt.
7 Embrace realistic matchmaking, feel my energy, listen to my radio show a networking singles you will gain insight.
8 Don't be shy you have alot to offer, let them know your interesting.
9 Think about nice things you can do for others, you will be noticed as benevolent.
10 Focus on getting positive reactions from the opposite sex.
11 Dress to attract, wear attractive but appropriate clothing.Be stylish.
12 Excercise at least 1 hour daily it will make you more physically appealing.
13 Make eye contact and smile at the moment you make eye contact it works most of the time.
14 Use imagination when planning dates, it creates an element of excitement.
15 Be a conversationalist, you can't be boring if you have something interesting to say.
16 Seek out support from others when dating.
17 Make a committment to have time and energy to date people.
18 Create a perception that you are pleasant to be around, the flock will soon form around you.
19 Make sure you don't percieve your way out of the dating game before you get in it.
20 Try to get as many realtime in person contact instead of tweeting your brains out, playing games on face book or linking in with people who mean nothing to you.Find a way to meet people face to face.
21 Being single does not mean your alone seek out groups of singles and mingle.
22 Don't act desperate, act as if you are worth it to meet, you will meet people this way.Create your inviting presence.
23 Please try to be happy, find your places to go that make you happy and smile, you will attract people there.
24 For heaven sake go on a vacation and meet someone there.
25 Think positive because you will attract positive.
I hope everyday to reach singles with words of encouragement, to lead you by use of the ideas of realistic matchmaking.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 @ 05:31 PM
My advice to all of you is powerful, so take a collective deep breath and get your head out of the hollywood image cloud! Singles take a look in the mirror and also scan the mirror of your soul. Settling in to ideas that have not worked over and over again will leave you alone over and over again. Looking at potential dates through a narrow lense will drastically reduce your chances to end up with anyone.
Compromising on certain expectations can help you be more reasonable about who you might date a second time. Your not abandoning your ideals completely.Your partial mind filled with junk from your friends, pop culture and bad advice from people can keep you from success. I operate my life that I am just plain no better than anyone else.
Having sheer compassionate ways about you will allow you to reject someone truthfully.However before you think about rejecting someone think about pre judgemental predjudice that has corrupted your mind.Stereotyping is a bad practice, I see it too often.The second chance might turn things around for you.
The people who find someone are active, energetic. open and allow destiny to reach them.If you put the walls up and find the excuses you wont get anywhere.Think about how many negative excuses you make for not changing your path.It's safe to stay home, in dating staying home keeps you alone.
I say to everyone a social network breathes life into your goal of finding someone, go out on more dates and if you dont have dates go socialize with people you can date, find them, seek them out. Get a life. If you dont know where to start, hire me, then let the fun begin. Fun, fun and more fun is the order of the day.Get the conversation started and start meeting people. All the excuses in this world must be thrown in the barrel permanently. If your nervous I will coach you through it.Recently I spoke several times to a new member of mine from Torrington C.T she was nervous about being accepted by the men at the dinner party I set up.I told her of her positive attributes that the men should respond.I built her confidence to go and be counted on.I am sure she will have a good time. Be brave, get out there.
It is the idea that realistic matchmaking is a fast growing idea that supports you in a process. The bravery part is yours to do.I will be your motivator.The production of good matches via my intuition and analysis will be beneficial and we will conquer the dating world and get you into a relationship.I will get you headed in the right direction. Communication will begin flowing like a river and you will be meeting people.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sun, Feb 28, 2010 @ 03:18 PM
Why in the midst of the worse economic calamity in half a century is my business growing and strengthening.It isn't complicated, take price positioning and the valued proposition that it is worth it to meet people and this drives single consumers to the market place. I think positive and target growth areas.Below are growth areas of strength in the first quarter.
1 New london county C.T
2 Central C.T
3 Greater New Haven C.T area
4 Long Island N.Y
5 Providence R.I Now the number 1 City
6 East greenwich R.I
7 Blackstone valley mass. and R.I
8 Kent county R.I
9 Aquidneck island R.I
10 Fairfield county C.T
11 Westchester county N.Y
These areas are in large growth patterns. This process of growth is targetted to expand growth in central massachusetts, northeast C.T SOON. The marketplace for singles is changing constantly.The internet online dating binge is over it is full of fraud, deceit it lacks accountability and yes there is no check and balance on what goes on, it is the wild wild west of dating, anything goes. Woman want security not uncertainty.Men are tired of looking at pictures that decieve. So having a gatekeeper for woman and a visual eye for men combined with a judge of emotional stability is comforting. Realistic matchmaking is rooting in, however it is difficult to throw away dreams and trade it in for reality.My style is direct and I am blitzing the public with this cultural permeation.
Another factor in the process is the use of effective, blunt and to the point communication such as this blog and the networking singles radio show .Many people are flocking to this website to learn about realistic matchmaking. I can be rather enchanting in my enthusiasm for my process. Let me captivate your attention, when I do, this business grows and you end up out of dating frustration and with someone.
Things are changing, the quck fix marketing is not working and realistic matchmaking is moving into your mind.You must face the truth in dating and understand it is a process. Consumers understand good prices coupled with reality.
There is no mystical powers at work here.I am not a magician.I understand men and woman in the dating pool.I enlighten many and bring them from the dark.
I understand that breaking patterns isn't easy but honesty in marketing is ethical.I believe so dramatically in realism. Let me set the mood folks, it is intoxicatingly real. Surrender to the spell of reality. Realistic matchmaking is here to stay, embrace it like so many are. I am a tireless promotor of realistic matchmaking a creator of positive conversation and I place to rest negativity. Your mindset should be based on the law of attraction, let's magnetize our positive energy. Why, because my brand strategy helps you save years of frustration brought on by fairytales.I have 18 years of experience and I am energized by the growth. Let me take a significant interest in you.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Feb 27, 2010 @ 05:05 PM
Many of you who read these blog posted articles and listen to me on my radio show networking singles know I talk about process.Realistic matchmaking is a process. So what do I really mean. Here is the process.
1 Please understand above anything else that you need to be able to understand for real who you are and who you can be with. You must be willing to undergo a look at yourself in the dating process and if you have been in the dating process longer than 5 years your in trouble, why because what you are doing isn't working.You must come to my matchmakers table and take a look at changing things.
2 Be realistic about the information used to rule people in and out.If you are excluding more than 50% of the dating pool then you need to open up.
3 Be prepared to understand that your lifestyle issues will be compromised if you are to be successful at dating, you might have an idea that the opposite sex is moving right in with you in a ready made to order relationship that is convienient, forget it.Some compromise is the order of the day.
4 Please dont be an age related fool.Date within 10 years or less of your own age.Chasing much younger is foolish.You really have nothing in common with them.
5 Try hard not to be a job/education snob.Intelligence comes in all education levels and if it matters what someone does then your after money so dont be disingenious.
6 If you have nasty personal habits like smoking, no time like the present to get rid of them and your health will be better.Most people aren't dating smokers these days.
7 If your a picture gawker then learn that your superficial and just get a pin up picture, put it on your wall, stay home and look at it.
8 What about dating people with children, don't pass up on a great date because they have children.If you have children make sure you have time to date and childcare available.If you end up in a permanent relationship with someone don't marry or move in with them if they have adolescent children, wait until they reach 18 then move in or get married.Adolescents can be very difficult to live with and if they don't like you it will be a disaster.
9 Be sociable and function well socially this will give you a leg up on your competition, you should be a fun person.
10 If you travel and vacation choose a partner who likes similiar destinations.
11 Money isn't everything but personality is.Personality compatibility is the most important factor in relationship longevity.
12 Sometimes chemistry is instant other times it takes my 4 date rule or my 90 days of fun dates rule.If you use these 2 ideas you might be successful sooner than later.
13 If you are desperate and hound the matchmaker for dates you will get a compromised membership and you need to understand there are no quck fixes.
14 All singles should excercise at least 1 hour per day it will make you more attractive.
15 Positive energy and the law of attraction should be understood and adopted in your thinking.You will attract like minded people.
16 Understand that half of the things you do should be similiar, you cant get with someone who does 100% of the things you do it is unrealistic.
17 Make sure that if religion is important that you find someone who believes what you do, now if they don't then find someone who respects your beliefs.
18 Please be willing to travel at least up to 2 hours to meet the right person, it opens up your opportunities.
If you want to be with someone examine where you can open up and be realistic about who you are and who you can be with and please become tolerant. Above anything else please be emotionally stable.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Sat, Feb 27, 2010 @ 01:09 PM
Meeting people is easier than you will many times allow it to happen.Why do you hold yourself back? Because you use negative channeling in your communication style.When men/woman have negative thoughts about what is likely a non negative situation they percieve their way into negativity. My belief in realistic matchmaking is to turn your thinking positive. I want you to shout out " I will be positive about other people"!
It is time to spread the viral message of realistic matchmaking , far and wide. Changing forever the false negative way people think about dating.There should never be a reason on earth not to converse and learn about other singles, you'll only marry one of them, however there is a whole bunch of fun to have along the way.
How you communicate with other singles get's you the date or sends you packing.I love the dinner party concept at tri-state dating service because it allows the fun banter back and forth with less pressure.You can even end up dating more than one person you meet at one of these.Another one is taking place on 2/28 in old saybrook C.T they happen all the time. At these dinner parties the powerful communication of all persons open doors. Dates will take place from these dinner parties after dinner party conversation starts the process.
When your bursting with charm you can get positive magnetic attraction from other singles. When you project yourself as colorful in conversation you will become attractive to so many. Having a broad building network of singles to date will lead to choosing one of them as your permanent one. I am not writing about online communication, I am talking about in person , in the flesh communication, the kind that actually matters, so texters, tweeters, face book addicts get real and in the flesh. I attended a american marketing association business networking event and had 5 meaningful business conversations I would not have had hiding in the corner of my office behind a computer screen. This means that singles must get out and network.
Who will atract you? Gain your attention. Become the central focus of your love interest.The answer is the positive one.The law of atraction is magnetic, spread your positive energy around in your conversations and your body laguage. If your out there you will be noticed, be prepared to talk, present your body language as inviting.
Become engaging in your communication, you do this by smiling and asking about people, they glow when you do this and you will be viewed as bright in their eyes.You told them they are interesting. People flock so wonderfully to a positive gathering, then you are heard and you listen to them in order to become connected.It is connection through gestures and words that link you. Start the conversation it is social, dating is social.Social activity must be fun, so communicate that your fun.
Realistic matchmaking is changing the dating world forever through communication, just meet me once and feel my energy it will entice you to be positive. My vision for you is a whole lot more than matches it is a process, don't be afraid to let me tweek you. I am spreading realistic matchmaking all over the northeast.I am promoting a movement.
Compare for yourself an idea that eliminates your frustration, teaches you to be realistic and saves you time in the quest for meeting people vs. High pressure sales pitches with false promises or the fraud of online dating, isn't the truth better? Find out for yourself if you can handle it and the transformation takes place 800-252-6210 It takes place here 7 days a week.Watch it work for you, but leave your negativity behind.
Boosting your morale building your motivation becomes productive, my energy will bring about this transformation.
John Holt
Matchmaker
Posted by John Holt on Thu, Feb 25, 2010 @ 08:51 AM
Hi friends, I am on the economic kick again. Those of you who have listened to my radio show for a while know me only to well when it comes to the economy.Tonight in the 2nd hour of networking singles you will hear me address this.You can hear me by tuning into 1380 am on your dial in northern rhode island and blackstone valley.If you are from elsewhwere you can stream it on the internet at www.wnri.com 6-8 pm, dont miss it, call in if you do listen.
Dating and relationships dont stop in bad economic times.This is a historic downturn in this economy we are in.My personal message to you is that getting serious about working with each other in every walk of life is the focus I reccomend. In dating there is a factor that rises above all economic issues.The actual mingling, social connection and development requires no money.You can be totally broke financially and socially rich from interaction.I have recognized the uneasiness of the times we are in.I continue to move this business forward because my willingness to work with people is strong and pricing is reasonable.
There is a security factor in relationships, going it single leaves you no safety net.I certainly am not advocating for ending up in a relationship just for economic reasons, however embracing the thought begins with a plan for progress.This means that you must begin to do something.Meeting people can be inexpensive if you do things that cost less.Dating becomes expensive when you choose to make it that way.In these times woman are concerned about security, men are retreating due to confidence issues, woman can help men by placing less pressure on men to wine and dine to impress, men can help woman by making themselves more available for meet and greet, in other words low cost less pressure meeting.Now there are many men and woman doing well and so I just say to you keep on with whatever your doing.
Unemployment is getting worse, there are far more people unemployed now , so I ask, should you stop dating because your unemployed? This has been a difficult decision to make for many because looking for prospects is the center of dating, so when your unemployed you feel less than you did when you were employed and folks if you think this is a deal breaker then perhaps any day now you could be unemployed and then your view will change.The measuring stick of how economically successful we are should no longer be the larger barometer of who we date.Dating is not marriage and economics runs in cycles, this cycle will be long and being with someone who you just like and are atracted to is so loyal to a person and not to a portfolio.
Our community has been destroyed to a certain extent by politicians who only care about power and reelection to public office, they don't care about your everyday struggle to get the good life or to make wealth or to just make ends meet, so once again we must in the business community work with consumers and understand the times we are in. The people who decide based on net worth who you are, will forever be shallow and are not realistic about real relationship building.Money is comforting it gets you things, you live easy , well that is great.Money doesn't give you any foundation for a great relationship. So when you meet an unemployed person dont dismiss them as non dateable because this could be you next month.
The economic times means a different strategy.The strategy now is an exchange of who you really are because we are in a downfall that could reduce your lifestyle by 40% so now you must change from status oriented choice to intrinsic choice, look inside at who they are not what they are worth, rise up to higher ground.I believe then you will find your real partner in dating.
My committment as a matchmaker is to take you to the deepest levels of reality sweet or sour as it might be.Staying in relationships and building new ones will help, it is connection during these times that will make progress.If Sally is so nice then Bill ought to think that it must be time for Sally and Bill to move in or get married and together your safer. Only if you really care for each other.It is the times we are in that should give you the following strategic pathway.
1 Take action to meet people without rating them on economic success.
2 Seek out less expensive ways to meet people.This is why my services are inexpensive.
3 When you find either many people to socially network with or individuals to date your emotional state of mind is in support of positive as opposed of negative.No one should be isolated.So find the individuals and the networks.
4 If you believe going on with life alone is wise accept your demise, if you become chosen to be next in unemployment. Besides that, men and woman have a need to be with each other.This is why my business is recession proof.The longer you unnaturally force yourself to stay alone the likely depression of the mental illness kind will permeate your life, so stop fighting it.
5 Come to a complete understanding that relationships are part of life, getting into the right one has to do with personalities not looks and not wealth. You will choose the right person if you follow this.
So what we are faced with is out of control misguided govt. no longer by the people and for the people so you must rely on common man and woman to co mingle how you live. Caring for each other when it becomes unaffordable because your all each other will have.Business working with consumers to get results and consumers embracing business. In a capatalistic economy business must be embraced by consumer or the downturn will get worse.I see people in the business community struggling.I try to be helpful with strategy sharing.I am fortunate that my busines is doing well.It is because my message is resonating.I am the merchant that forces you to embrace reality.The brand of tri-state dating service is realistic matchmaking, changing the industry every day every moment every minute in every communication.Let's get serious about alliances in dating social networks and business networks because helping each other is the road to recovery, the govt. will not help you.
John Holt
Matchmaker